I am a single father of two sons who live with me. I love them and try to provide the best for them in life.
We are Christian and all that and attend church when we can; altho they go with their mom on weekends.
Lately i have become incredibly depressed by everything going on. I was mostly unaffected by Covid, I have prepped a large stash of stuff just in case, and for the most part my life isnt too objectively bad.
Dating has been hard and i am beginning to despair of ever finding a partner in this area and with the morass of online dating sites being the suckholes that they are.
Ironically being depressed and trying to date isnt the best combo so im just spiraling down on the regular.
I have prayed to God to send me someone who he intends for me, but thus far no luck.
I feel like theres nothing left for me in life. Nothing i want or need. I am hanging in there for my sons and my parents but you can only live for someone else for so long, and i feel my time is growing short.
Any advice to cheer me up? At 43 i have too far left to walk to do it alone but feel as though ive walked too far already to make finding someone a possibility.
And with all the vaxxing im not keen on meeting someone whos going to randomly sudden death on me, so im there at the viewing saying "im just thankful for the 6 great months we had together."
Ive lived and worked with pain and i just dont want any more, and God knows what ive been through...
Try going to the gym and get those endorphins flowing, raise your mood.
Next, think about the kind of woman you would like, then think what kind of things that woman would do with her time. Go to those things.
Forget dating sites, meet real people.
So many women edit their profile pics on social media.
I’ve decided to never use dating apps after what I saw.
Besides, it’s much more exciting the traditional way, being out in the world, and suddenly you see this beautiful woman who catches your eye, and vice versa, you can’t beat a moment like that with dating apps.
Ahh yes the catfishing is strong on the dating sites, and the ones claiming to be Christian are the worst.
I love the separated women seeking someone who shares their Christian values.
Mine don't allow me to date women who are still married. I realize there was a point when my divorce was not final but the marriage was over but some of these even talk about how recent the separation was.
Your first tip I'm sure is good but Is the hardest for me. I was an asthmatic kid and the gym class experiences led me to loathe physical activity for "fun." Thankfully I have a fantastic metabolism which means I'm not huge and out of shape. Somewhat muscular even from the work I've done.
I don’t know how bad your asthma is, but weight lifting shouldn’t agitate it.
It's gotten better than when I was a kid. And I used to lift weights...now some muscle spasticity from a health issue I survived a few years back guarantees me days of pain after lifting anything...
I do a lot of practical lifting for work so I'm often achy when I get around to my free time
I know what you mean, but it's easy to be lazy when you have a good metabolism. I have a similar issue.
However, you don't have to hit the gym literally, try doing 10 press ups a day. If you manage that, go to 11, then 12 etc.
Even that will make a difference.
Or, you could try dynamic tension, where you tense opposing muscles against themselves. Although if you try that go easy to start with, you'd be surprised how easy it is to strain a muscle in the beginning :)