I think they are annoyed that I make them feel guilty for their selfish choices.
For example, I helped to financially support my father in the last 15 years of his life. I have 3 brothers and they all didn't want to help Dad. My mother left Dad when I was a young teenager.
I was just a single (divorced for over 15 years) guy, working a medium pay job, struggling to make ends meet myself, but I helped my Dad out because, well... he was my father and that's what you're supposed to do, right?
Well now I lost my job over the COVID jab and been unemployed for over 6 months. I've run out of money and I'm doing it tough on unemployment payments that leave me with $60 per week after rent to live on, pay electricity, internet, phone etc.
All my family say it was my fault for financially helping Dad and helping him to be comfortable in the last 15 years of his life. No one in my family, including my own mother, will do a thing to assist me during this time at all.
My brothers all managed to buy houses, so why didn't I, according to them all.
I remind my family of their pure and utter selfishness, I believe. They aren't feeling "hurt" by my actions, they are feeling guilt over their selfishness and they mistake it for "hurt". That's the conclusion that I've come to.
Still... I'd do it all over again if I had the chance because it was the right thing to do.
Yeah, that really pisses me off. I have a side of the family who I don’t speak to anymore bc they were the same way. People would rather be childish and selfish rather than maintain the strong bonds a family should have. Those relationships are worth their weight in gold, but some ppl throw it away like it’s nothing. And you didn’t really have a choice- if you go against your core beliefs and do what they want, you’d be miserable. I had a mandated vax order come down at my work too, and I just happened to get lucky and get an exemption approved. If it wasn’t for that I would have lost my job too and I was fully ready to be told I was fired. There’s just no way ppl like us can get that shot just to get a paycheck. I’m really praying for you and that God will provide you some opportunities ❤️
I think they are annoyed that I make them feel guilty for their selfish choices.
For example, I helped to financially support my father in the last 15 years of his life. I have 3 brothers and they all didn't want to help Dad. My mother left Dad when I was a young teenager.
I was just a single (divorced for over 15 years) guy, working a medium pay job, struggling to make ends meet myself, but I helped my Dad out because, well... he was my father and that's what you're supposed to do, right?
Well now I lost my job over the COVID jab and been unemployed for over 6 months. I've run out of money and I'm doing it tough on unemployment payments that leave me with $60 per week after rent to live on, pay electricity, internet, phone etc.
All my family say it was my fault for financially helping Dad and helping him to be comfortable in the last 15 years of his life. No one in my family, including my own mother, will do a thing to assist me during this time at all.
My brothers all managed to buy houses, so why didn't I, according to them all.
I remind my family of their pure and utter selfishness, I believe. They aren't feeling "hurt" by my actions, they are feeling guilt over their selfishness and they mistake it for "hurt". That's the conclusion that I've come to.
Still... I'd do it all over again if I had the chance because it was the right thing to do.
Yeah, that really pisses me off. I have a side of the family who I don’t speak to anymore bc they were the same way. People would rather be childish and selfish rather than maintain the strong bonds a family should have. Those relationships are worth their weight in gold, but some ppl throw it away like it’s nothing. And you didn’t really have a choice- if you go against your core beliefs and do what they want, you’d be miserable. I had a mandated vax order come down at my work too, and I just happened to get lucky and get an exemption approved. If it wasn’t for that I would have lost my job too and I was fully ready to be told I was fired. There’s just no way ppl like us can get that shot just to get a paycheck. I’m really praying for you and that God will provide you some opportunities ❤️