Well said, u/numina18!

To be sure, there's a lot of porn or porn-like entertainment in today's world. Outside of the church, I often hear phrases like "porn is fine, everyone watches it" and "masturbation is normal and a very healthy thing to do". I didn't realize how much was tucked into what I was consuming both IRL and online.

It's a complete game-changer (for me at least) to understand that watching porn is like any other sin (you can think of it as a personal obstacle, if that's less "churchy"). Porn isn't special. Think of it like over-eating, over-sleeping, envy, etc. A person addicted to porn has been thrown a hurdle that is pleasurable, entertaining, kind of guilty, and applauded by the mainstream. It's heady! Overcoming it is going to take the personal will to say "No, not today." Everyday, or however often the urge hits you. Some people can stop cold, but for many others this is a process that takes time.

I don't want to minimize the importance of personal will. You truly have to have the will to see the temptation as it engulfs you, acknowledge it (hold it), and rebuke it. There are forces in this world that think you are weak to it; you are not. It's very easy to simply say "Well, I feel like I should just do it. It will make me feel better." Instead, say "Lord, have mercy!" out loud or in your head. Say "Lord Jesus Christ, Son of God, have mercy on me a sinner." Say it as many times as needed, for as long as the temptation remains.

I encourage anyone working to overcome their sins/obstacles to be kind to themselves. Keep a bible on hand (you don't have to read it; having one near by is a huge help) or a prayer book. Get an icon of a saint whose story speaks to you (there are many on Etsy). Pray often. Find a spiritual confidant. Read faith-based stories.

You are not alone! Godspeed, fren. 🙏