I'm 52. I married at 21 to my "high school sweetheart". She wasn't what I thought she was then and has gotten worse over the years. Day-to-day stuff is perfect between us, but when it comes to serious truth we are in dire straights.
At 19, I had sex with another girl during a breakup and kept it from my future wife. Turns out my future wife wasn't the virgin like I was when we met, and even had sex with my friend after we were married when I said okay. (You can jump off the local bridge too; She didn't take me up on that one, haha) To this day I have been faithful in marriage and she has too other than that one time years ago.
But the biggest issue is abortion. My wife supports it. I was an adopted child of a rape and I absolutely detest abortion. My mother could have gotten one in 1970 in Arkansas but she didn't. At 19, she gave birth to me, put me up for adoption and went into the Air Force.
She went on to marry and have two more children, work for the postal service and air national guard and retire comfortably.
Also, my wife wouldn't listen to me when her job required the vax. I said don't do it, no job is worth it. She got one Pfizer jab anyway. Thankfully she hasn't gotten another and her batch number looks like a less deadly one so far.
I have scriptural grounds for divorce, but I don't think I should. I feel like I should keep trying. Hopefully I won't be another Lot waiting for the day my wife looks back...
Any anons out there sympathize with my pain? Please share.
I think it would be difficult to be with a spouse that’s not on the same page with you regarding political issues, however I don’t think it’s grounds for divorce. However infidelity is, but since it was such a long time ago, have you forgive her? Maybe you haven’t ‘cause you brought it up again. That’s something you need to deal with.
I wouldn’t be so concerned about her political views, rather finding a Bible believing church, and attending it weekly. Also each of you should go to a women’s and men’s Bible study weekly. This is where you will find other believers, and grow strong friendships. It’s in this type of environment, that she will actually learn that abortion is wrong. Start reading the Bible together every day. One Proverbs, and one psalms. It’s not a lot of time, and it can make a huge difference on your day. If she won’t do it with you, start doing it yourself, and be an example to her. Be an example of a godly husband.
Jesus Christ says we’re supposed to forgive one another as he has forgiven us. Holding unforgiveness in your heart, is the sin against the Lord, and it doesn’t help you at all. After I finally for gave to people in particular over a ten-year period of being angry at them, I feel free again.
I think you should focus on your relationship with Christ, and build your relationship with your wife from there. I think you will find that in doing so, you can have a long lasting marriage. Forgiveness is key! And being a godly husband is the best gift you could ever give your wife.
Everything after that will follow.
Exactly....see my response elsewhere in this thread.