I'm 52. I married at 21 to my "high school sweetheart". She wasn't what I thought she was then and has gotten worse over the years. Day-to-day stuff is perfect between us, but when it comes to serious truth we are in dire straights.
At 19, I had sex with another girl during a breakup and kept it from my future wife. Turns out my future wife wasn't the virgin like I was when we met, and even had sex with my friend after we were married when I said okay. (You can jump off the local bridge too; She didn't take me up on that one, haha) To this day I have been faithful in marriage and she has too other than that one time years ago.
But the biggest issue is abortion. My wife supports it. I was an adopted child of a rape and I absolutely detest abortion. My mother could have gotten one in 1970 in Arkansas but she didn't. At 19, she gave birth to me, put me up for adoption and went into the Air Force.
She went on to marry and have two more children, work for the postal service and air national guard and retire comfortably.
Also, my wife wouldn't listen to me when her job required the vax. I said don't do it, no job is worth it. She got one Pfizer jab anyway. Thankfully she hasn't gotten another and her batch number looks like a less deadly one so far.
I have scriptural grounds for divorce, but I don't think I should. I feel like I should keep trying. Hopefully I won't be another Lot waiting for the day my wife looks back...
Any anons out there sympathize with my pain? Please share.
Since divorce is a big deal (God hates divorce), I’m not pulling any punches here and will tell it to you straight.
It wouldn’t hurt to review 1 Corinthians 7 and Mark 10, especially if your emotions are running high. Paul advises the believer not to divorce the unbeliever (1 Cor 7:12).
That’s not biblical grounds for divorce, but I feel for you there. It’s not easy to have a difference on that topic.
If this is the referent of “grounds for divorce”, I’d give this some pause. It happened years ago, but you didn’t divorce her then. So did you forgive it or not? If you’re going to cite that as grounds, are you sure you’re not being hard hearted (Mark 10:5)?
Are you’re referring to physical acts? The standard for marital faithfulness according to Jesus is in Matthew 5:28–looking with lustful intent is adultery. If you’ve not done that one time in 31 years, good for you! If you have, then think about the implications of that.
Great points. Thank you.