I'm 52. I married at 21 to my "high school sweetheart". She wasn't what I thought she was then and has gotten worse over the years. Day-to-day stuff is perfect between us, but when it comes to serious truth we are in dire straights.
At 19, I had sex with another girl during a breakup and kept it from my future wife. Turns out my future wife wasn't the virgin like I was when we met, and even had sex with my friend after we were married when I said okay. (You can jump off the local bridge too; She didn't take me up on that one, haha) To this day I have been faithful in marriage and she has too other than that one time years ago.
But the biggest issue is abortion. My wife supports it. I was an adopted child of a rape and I absolutely detest abortion. My mother could have gotten one in 1970 in Arkansas but she didn't. At 19, she gave birth to me, put me up for adoption and went into the Air Force.
She went on to marry and have two more children, work for the postal service and air national guard and retire comfortably.
Also, my wife wouldn't listen to me when her job required the vax. I said don't do it, no job is worth it. She got one Pfizer jab anyway. Thankfully she hasn't gotten another and her batch number looks like a less deadly one so far.
I have scriptural grounds for divorce, but I don't think I should. I feel like I should keep trying. Hopefully I won't be another Lot waiting for the day my wife looks back...
Any anons out there sympathize with my pain? Please share.
I went through a separation recently. We were together for over ten years. Although we weren’t married, we might as well have been.
Despite my breakdowns in the recent weeks, the bottom line for me was the truth. She’s an extrovert, surrounded by brain dead drone zombies. We agreed on most things, except every time I shared something with her, she would not ever think for herself. She always had to ask others’ opinion. Here I was fighting this tyranny, sacrificing a lot to fight at the front lines. My concerns were disregarded. In addition to this, she’s also a registered nurse.
I’m only giving you a small fraction of my story. Bottom line is, I could not live any further surrounded by lies, weakness, and this kind of surrender attitude. This wasn’t the future I wanted. And while I was fighting, we would always fight because I was being accused of cheating and/or seeing other people in the process. The distrust and inconsiderate misunderstanding was what did it for me.
I’m breaking down since moving into a house by myself. I have contempt for nearly all of humanity. But I decided I would no longer live surrounded by lies. I was only guilty of one thing, protecting my loved ones and my family. I was met with nothing but disrespect.