I couldn't agree more... My daughter who is now 14 came home one day and told me she wanted to cut her breasts off and I asked her why... It was because all the boys keep staring at them... I told her boys are like that at that age because of their raging hormones... She too has short hair dyed purple and dresses like a boy and she's bi as well... She told me she was non binary and told me her pronouns... I told her to shove her pronouns and that she was a girl... I support her as much as I can but mutilation of her body is where I drew the line... When she came to me and told me she liked girls, I replied with "well what do you know, so do I"... kek Her brother and his gf told her how wrong and disgusting it is blah blah blah and when I didn't let it faze me and accepted her feelings she was floored... I'm a single father raising a 14 year old daughter that has been through the ringer since her mom died in 2015... Parents need to be more involved in their children's lives instead of being too busy doing other nonsense.. Cheers fren...
For what it's worth, you're doing a good job as a single dad from where I stand. Not allowing her to deny reality is the most important thing, along with not letting her mutilate her body because her hormones have gone wonky.
Pushing back on her about being bi would only make her dig her heels in, as would telling her she can't dye her hair to look like a unicorn, so you chose your fight well. Different people handle grief different ways, and hers may be manifesting by her following along with the current thing from her peers. Hopefully, she'll grow out of that.
I just hope your kids realize you have grief of your own at your loss, and to be there for you. A lot of kids tend to forget their parents are actual people with real feelings. So if you ever need an ear, feel free to unload.
Her mom and I weren't together at the time but I too lost my dad at the age of 5... So it's easy for me to understand what she's going through... I just try to be there for her and still be a loving but tough parent kekek... I'm teaching her to he based and question everything which bites me in the ass sometimes but that too is ok... Thank you for the compliment btw... May you and yours have a blessed and merry Christmas... BTW, she's my only child... born 28 days before I turned 47...
I couldn't agree more... My daughter who is now 14 came home one day and told me she wanted to cut her breasts off and I asked her why... It was because all the boys keep staring at them... I told her boys are like that at that age because of their raging hormones... She too has short hair dyed purple and dresses like a boy and she's bi as well... She told me she was non binary and told me her pronouns... I told her to shove her pronouns and that she was a girl... I support her as much as I can but mutilation of her body is where I drew the line... When she came to me and told me she liked girls, I replied with "well what do you know, so do I"... kek Her brother and his gf told her how wrong and disgusting it is blah blah blah and when I didn't let it faze me and accepted her feelings she was floored... I'm a single father raising a 14 year old daughter that has been through the ringer since her mom died in 2015... Parents need to be more involved in their children's lives instead of being too busy doing other nonsense.. Cheers fren...
For what it's worth, you're doing a good job as a single dad from where I stand. Not allowing her to deny reality is the most important thing, along with not letting her mutilate her body because her hormones have gone wonky.
Pushing back on her about being bi would only make her dig her heels in, as would telling her she can't dye her hair to look like a unicorn, so you chose your fight well. Different people handle grief different ways, and hers may be manifesting by her following along with the current thing from her peers. Hopefully, she'll grow out of that.
I just hope your kids realize you have grief of your own at your loss, and to be there for you. A lot of kids tend to forget their parents are actual people with real feelings. So if you ever need an ear, feel free to unload.
Her mom and I weren't together at the time but I too lost my dad at the age of 5... So it's easy for me to understand what she's going through... I just try to be there for her and still be a loving but tough parent kekek... I'm teaching her to he based and question everything which bites me in the ass sometimes but that too is ok... Thank you for the compliment btw... May you and yours have a blessed and merry Christmas... BTW, she's my only child... born 28 days before I turned 47...