My 75 year old sister’s kidneys are failing. She was triple jabbed. She has had diabetes for a number of years. It is now taking its toll on her kidneys. She was always overweight from childhood.
She called me yesterday to let me know and asked if I would consider being a donor.
I said yes but I need more information on what that means. I know my husband would object and wouldn’t want me to donate.
She is going to a medical center to see if she is even eligible to get a donor kidney.
I am one of six sibs but half are diabetic (including my sister). The remaining sibs all have said they would be donors. But one had cancer tumor in past (now cancer free) and the other has had multiple surgeries ( 5 spinal fusions, knee and shoulder replacements and a variety of other surgeries).
I am most likely the healthiest and youngest of them all but was recently told I am pre diabetic. I’m working on getting my weight down and have been eating less carbs.
I would like to help her out to stay off dialysis but am a bit concerned about going into a hospital (any hospital) these days to remove a kidney. I am unjabbed. Has anyone else done this?
If you can't bring yourself to make this decision, I firmly believe, it is because you are lacking certain information that would make your decision clear. In other words .. don't force a decision. If you have many apprehensions you might consider them your intuition, which is God-given guidance. But I know how difficult this "grey area" is. I know what it means to be 75 and wanting a new lease on life. And survival instinct is very selfish of course. So it has to be you who assesses the other aspects of this. I guess if it were my situation I would pray hard that the right answer would be shown to me clear as a bell and quickly. Your prayer as you go to sleep, that you awaken with guidance that is undeniable. In my family one cousin gave a kidney to another cousin and saved her life. They both healed beautifully. They were both in their 50's and otherwise healthy. So it was the right decision for them. Neither of them had been living their life in a previously self-destructive manner that gave them a serious co-morbidity. (Neither obese nor diabetic). I imagine the younger ages of both helped with the decision-making, too. By getting triple jabbed your sister sealed her fate, really. That and obesity and diabetes? I don't think this is your battle and your husband would not think so either.