They made my life hell for over ten years. And it’s still rough. I have multiple family members who struggle waiting for justice. They are able to keep cool heads, but frankly there are families hurt much worse, with a family member being in far worse shape than I was put into.
With the proof coming out, I suspect there will be people who were holding their suffering back for a long time that will eventually snap. The justice must be carried out or we’ll eventually be left with chaos that doesn’t even properly affect the leaders of the broken system.
I am sorry for your suffering. As I've said many times to my kids, the doctor has 5 minutes to think about you and then it is on to the next patient. Be prepared, have your questions written down, do your own research before arriving, know what your goal is and arrive early for the appointment. We have to take strong control over our bodies and our care, and simply can no longer trust that 'the doctors know best' because often, they do not.
Long ago, when I was in my 20's my father had a heart attack. He had clear signs of what was happening to him, but he didn't act. He'd been out too late with his buddies drinking, and my mom was rightfully angry and not speaking to him. I arrived to see them both and saw my father in such a state and insisted on taking him right then to the heart hospital. It saved his life. Mom was distraught that she missed the obvious signs. We also saw how he was treated in the hospital
Right then, my siblings and I made a pact that we would never leave our parents or each other without representation when we went to the hospital. We also agreed that we could each 'intervene' if we saw a family member abusing or neglecting themselves or their spouses medical needs. And we stood by that. When one was hospitalized we siblings took shifts sitting with the sick family member, taking notes on what was given them and why, inquiring as to what our family member was feeling and whether they needed something more. By doing this we have collectively over the years stopped the medical staff from giving/injecting something that would have been catastrophic, or failing to respond to the ill family member without our intervention. Years later, my elderly relatives had legal documents drawn up that allowed me and my brother to accompany them and make all decisions for them as their medical advocate/guardian. It was hard work, but really was necessary.
I recommend doing that for each other and knowing each other's medical history so that you can step in and intervene with your own knowledge when necessary.
We have definitely learned the hard way about treating doctors appointments like talking to lawyers or even a judge, with notes and as much proof as possible. For out of state doctor visits I even brought my husband and mother into the appointment (they both are main witnesses of my chronic health ordeal).
You raise a very good point about having a family pact about medical stuff, better to not wait for an emergency to try to figure out on the spot. I’m going take your advice ASAP and get my parents and siblings on board, and make a note for everything a doctor would ask for each person. They’re used to it for my health issues, but we never sat down and did it for everyone else.
They made my life hell for over ten years. And it’s still rough. I have multiple family members who struggle waiting for justice. They are able to keep cool heads, but frankly there are families hurt much worse, with a family member being in far worse shape than I was put into.
With the proof coming out, I suspect there will be people who were holding their suffering back for a long time that will eventually snap. The justice must be carried out or we’ll eventually be left with chaos that doesn’t even properly affect the leaders of the broken system.
I am sorry for your suffering. As I've said many times to my kids, the doctor has 5 minutes to think about you and then it is on to the next patient. Be prepared, have your questions written down, do your own research before arriving, know what your goal is and arrive early for the appointment. We have to take strong control over our bodies and our care, and simply can no longer trust that 'the doctors know best' because often, they do not.
Long ago, when I was in my 20's my father had a heart attack. He had clear signs of what was happening to him, but he didn't act. He'd been out too late with his buddies drinking, and my mom was rightfully angry and not speaking to him. I arrived to see them both and saw my father in such a state and insisted on taking him right then to the heart hospital. It saved his life. Mom was distraught that she missed the obvious signs. We also saw how he was treated in the hospital
Right then, my siblings and I made a pact that we would never leave our parents or each other without representation when we went to the hospital. We also agreed that we could each 'intervene' if we saw a family member abusing or neglecting themselves or their spouses medical needs. And we stood by that. When one was hospitalized we siblings took shifts sitting with the sick family member, taking notes on what was given them and why, inquiring as to what our family member was feeling and whether they needed something more. By doing this we have collectively over the years stopped the medical staff from giving/injecting something that would have been catastrophic, or failing to respond to the ill family member without our intervention. Years later, my elderly relatives had legal documents drawn up that allowed me and my brother to accompany them and make all decisions for them as their medical advocate/guardian. It was hard work, but really was necessary.
I recommend doing that for each other and knowing each other's medical history so that you can step in and intervene with your own knowledge when necessary.
We have definitely learned the hard way about treating doctors appointments like talking to lawyers or even a judge, with notes and as much proof as possible. For out of state doctor visits I even brought my husband and mother into the appointment (they both are main witnesses of my chronic health ordeal).
You raise a very good point about having a family pact about medical stuff, better to not wait for an emergency to try to figure out on the spot. I’m going take your advice ASAP and get my parents and siblings on board, and make a note for everything a doctor would ask for each person. They’re used to it for my health issues, but we never sat down and did it for everyone else.
Great!