Understood. She will calm down once this is over and hopefully be a good mother to your children. I can see not wanting to take full custody. Her emotions are controlling her right now, I've seen it many times, they usually calm down after a while. Don't react to her attempts. The more you feed into their emotions the more they continue. Just be you calm and collected. I think this will work out fine. My mom used to threaten suicide to my dad as a way of manipulation. I was just a kid but it made me really worried. They would fight with me in the house. I'd fake I had a 'stomach ache' to go to her when she said she was going to kill herself. I was like 8 years old. I hope no kid has to go through what I did. Now my mom is very kind and sweet, she still tries emotional manipulation like most women do but we all see through it and ignore it. No reaction = she loses power.
I'm sorry to hear about their fights affecting you. Maybe it just made you stronger in the end.
You are absolutely correct about "No Reaction = Power Loss". It look me a long time to figure this out. It took me longer to figure out how to use it. Most of my replies are just "Okay". She even started doing it back to me. Which at first got to me(silly I know), but now I just chuckle and think "Good girl"
Correct. Her using that back at you means it was a direct hit. Continue. Maybe not even reply. Turn on read receipts. Let her know you read the text and didn't reply. It will defeat their power of manipulation. o7
Damn, never thought of it like a direct hit! I'd turned off receipts and "show typing" so I could reply in my own time. Wish it was easier to toggle that on/off.
Thanks for the advice/input. You have been helpful.
Understood. She will calm down once this is over and hopefully be a good mother to your children. I can see not wanting to take full custody. Her emotions are controlling her right now, I've seen it many times, they usually calm down after a while. Don't react to her attempts. The more you feed into their emotions the more they continue. Just be you calm and collected. I think this will work out fine. My mom used to threaten suicide to my dad as a way of manipulation. I was just a kid but it made me really worried. They would fight with me in the house. I'd fake I had a 'stomach ache' to go to her when she said she was going to kill herself. I was like 8 years old. I hope no kid has to go through what I did. Now my mom is very kind and sweet, she still tries emotional manipulation like most women do but we all see through it and ignore it. No reaction = she loses power.
I'm sorry to hear about their fights affecting you. Maybe it just made you stronger in the end.
You are absolutely correct about "No Reaction = Power Loss". It look me a long time to figure this out. It took me longer to figure out how to use it. Most of my replies are just "Okay". She even started doing it back to me. Which at first got to me(silly I know), but now I just chuckle and think "Good girl"
Correct. Her using that back at you means it was a direct hit. Continue. Maybe not even reply. Turn on read receipts. Let her know you read the text and didn't reply. It will defeat their power of manipulation. o7
Damn, never thought of it like a direct hit! I'd turned off receipts and "show typing" so I could reply in my own time. Wish it was easier to toggle that on/off.
Thanks for the advice/input. You have been helpful.