Agree with how you started out but you lost me at women need to give birth in their 20s. Life is long nowadays. We aren’t slipping down the other side in our 40s and 50s. There is much to see, much to know, much to do. And raising a family is not for those who are still trying to figure o themselves out, who they are, what they want, what the world has to offer, and how they fit into it. For most of the folks I know, 20s was about education, personal growth, learning and practicing the fine art of being a responsible adult. We all got married in our early 30s and had kids soon after, mid-30s, and beyond. I actually had four kids between 38 and 44 which allowed me to have a full career and the family (gave up that career to stay at home). Absolutely no regrets. I feel like I had the best of both worlds. Trying to do it the other way around would not have yielded the same results
Glad that worked out for you my story is the same. But there are pros and cons to both. I think we forged the way for it not to matter if you have a kid at 25 or even younger. It is not the career killer it once was if that's your thing. I will say for me, I wish I had stayed home. The chaos of two people working in high stress jobs has made our home life more stressful than it had to be. And I don't really think we are financially better off for it TBH.
My secretary/assistant at one job had her kids right out of high school. On her fortieth she and her husband were going on a cruise. I asked, "Are the kids going?" She said, no, so I said, "whose watching them?" She said, "well they are 22 and 20 so hopefully they can take care of themselves." We no longer work together but it looks like she's spent the last 20 years living it up and traveling with her High School Sweetheart while they are both still able bodied. And she's been working at a company with great benefits for over 25 years now, so I suspect she's in pretty good financial shape too.
My wife and I waited for a while so we could really settle into our marriage. She was 30 when we had our first and 35 when we had our third. We were fortunate enough to have put aside funds and my career was such that she could be a stay at home Mom. Kids are out now but looking back I don't think I would choose to accelerate that timeline.
Agree with how you started out but you lost me at women need to give birth in their 20s. Life is long nowadays. We aren’t slipping down the other side in our 40s and 50s. There is much to see, much to know, much to do. And raising a family is not for those who are still trying to figure o themselves out, who they are, what they want, what the world has to offer, and how they fit into it. For most of the folks I know, 20s was about education, personal growth, learning and practicing the fine art of being a responsible adult. We all got married in our early 30s and had kids soon after, mid-30s, and beyond. I actually had four kids between 38 and 44 which allowed me to have a full career and the family (gave up that career to stay at home). Absolutely no regrets. I feel like I had the best of both worlds. Trying to do it the other way around would not have yielded the same results
Glad that worked out for you my story is the same. But there are pros and cons to both. I think we forged the way for it not to matter if you have a kid at 25 or even younger. It is not the career killer it once was if that's your thing. I will say for me, I wish I had stayed home. The chaos of two people working in high stress jobs has made our home life more stressful than it had to be. And I don't really think we are financially better off for it TBH.
My secretary/assistant at one job had her kids right out of high school. On her fortieth she and her husband were going on a cruise. I asked, "Are the kids going?" She said, no, so I said, "whose watching them?" She said, "well they are 22 and 20 so hopefully they can take care of themselves." We no longer work together but it looks like she's spent the last 20 years living it up and traveling with her High School Sweetheart while they are both still able bodied. And she's been working at a company with great benefits for over 25 years now, so I suspect she's in pretty good financial shape too.
It's all good.
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My wife and I waited for a while so we could really settle into our marriage. She was 30 when we had our first and 35 when we had our third. We were fortunate enough to have put aside funds and my career was such that she could be a stay at home Mom. Kids are out now but looking back I don't think I would choose to accelerate that timeline.