We have court this week. Our grandchildren's step mother, who they call Mom, has been given orders for a move to South Korea. My husband and I will have to say that we think it's best for them to move there with Dad and Mom. Our daughter, M., while she loves her children, is just not fit. It kills me to say this and my heart is being smashed. Last year, Dad was given custody with M having supervised visitation. She only saw them twice in about 9 months until she found out about the move to S. Korea. My husband and I had to take out a restraining order against M last year because she called the police and told them that I was a danger to myself. Imagine my shock when the police came and had to bring me to the ER so a doc could check me out. He said I was fine but that it sounded like my daughter was not. The next day, the police were back. M called and reported my husband, her father, for animal abuse. Now you all don't know him but my husband is, if not the kindest, then one of the top 10 kindest men in the whole world. She violated the order the other night when she called me in the middle of the night. In the past, she tried to strangle me and she swung a cast iron bed rail at her dad. I wish I could make you all understand how painful this court appearance will be for my husband and for me. We love our daughter. We have to put our grandchildren first though. All they've known since they were born is chaos. They need to be on the other side of the world so that they can get some stability in their lives. Anyway, sorry for the novel. We need strength and courage. Please pray for us. Thank you
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I am thankful for your post. It took courage. But, I want you to be very educated here because you and your husband actually can do nothing more than love your grandchildren as much as possible - ignoring all the drama -- focus on them - not the court, not the words the court would ignore anyway -- focus ON the grandkids. period. They will be okay. M will live with the blame (yes she will say you didn't help... with what? Ignore her pleas to say things to the court that will help her case. The court doesn't have to hear your side - M has SHOWN the court her side.
I am the mother - it was Feb 2 1988 - I was the mother the court said "no" to. I would not have grown up once and for all, if the court had sided with me. My son is now 38 - he knows what I was like, but now, because I grew up and faced life head-on, my son knows I love him and my grandkids know they have a grandmother who takes responsibility for her actions, not because I wanted to - but because no one else could do it for me...but the court.
I'm guessing this may be a short-term tour of duty, perhaps? If the step-mom is a good mom, let them go freely. send cards, send letters, send videos - do Facetime. the tour will be over before you know it.
Bless you, Sidetracked and thank you for sharing. It means more than you know. It's a 2 year posting but they will come home for visits. So happy your situation has worked out!!! Hugs
You are an amazing grandmother. It takes a strong, good person to see the situation clearly. May God keep you all in His loving embrace. Prayers that your daughter feels His miraculous love working in her.
God Bless you for your story of hope. This helps those who need to know things can change.