Wow... well, good luck to you, anon. I feel fortunate that my wife of many, many years, is at least somewhat receptive to these things. She constantly tells me, "I'll believe it when I see it," but when she DOES see it, at least I have prepared her for what is coming. I suspect our conversations will then take on a much more serious tone... she's a pretty smart cookie, and I'll try to answer her questions as best I can, when the time comes.

I won't presume to give marital or relationship advice, as each relationship between humans is different from all others. Best of luck to you in coming days.