I try to help. I remember what it was like when I worked 4PM to 4 AM for 6 days a week. It was a nightmare. However, I finally put my foot down on my kids Father and told him that he MUST help do the housework and the laundry. He refused to go back to work. And since my DIL works so hard and my son works too, there is no time for anyone to do much of anything except mow the lawn. So since I am there all day with the little ones/ NOW all of them, I started taking over her duties to give her some rest. She missed me for the month she took Family Leave for her dying Grandmother. That is when she admitted how grateful she was for me doing the things I do for her. When I returned, I had a months supply of dirty laundry waiting in the wings. Kek!