What I admire most about Trump is his supreme confidence whenever he's around people. No matter who he's with or what situation he's in, he's always confident. I want to have that kind of confidence for myself.
I also want to have good social skills so that I can express my personality and form relationships. I'm not the best at this but it's something I want to get better at.
Does anyone know of any books or teachers that can help me build confidence and social skills?
Psycho-Cybernetics by Maxwell Maltz
Also worth noting that confidence is often earned. You build confidence by winning and keeping the promises you make to yourself over and over again. It's a tough life that not many people really want, hence why so few people are actually that successful.
I'd recommend the following adjustments:
1.. Always pick the option you're most proud of, even when an alternative seems easier. Who are you at your best? Be that person when no one's looking.
2.. Doing the right thing should never be an exception. Change your identity to accommodate the practical changes you want to make in your life. If you want confidence, put yourself in stressful situations and come out on top. Do it because you're the kind of person who succeeds in those situations.
3.. Correct your self-talk. Never think anything bad about yourself. If you observe things you aren't proud of, quietly change them and let that be that. Self criticism should be constructive, not destructive.
4.. Change your body language. Put your chest out and smile. Be open, warm and present in the moment and truly feel like you belong wherever you are. People will subconsciously notice and accept you if you accept yourself.
5.. Change your own narrative. You can take the same exact life and tell the story of a winner or a loser by emphasizing different parts of the same exact chain of events. Why let yourself be a loser? You can just as easily interpret your life in a way that gives you power.