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How to get confidence like President Trump:
It's worth noting that confidence is often earned. You build confidence by winning and keeping the promises you make to yourself over and over again. It's a tough life that not many people really want, hence why so few people are actually that successful.
I'd recommend the following adjustments:
1.. Always pick the option you're most proud of, even when an alternative seems easier. Who are you at your best? Be that person when no one's looking.
2.. Doing the right thing should never be an exception. Change your identity to accommodate the practical changes you want to make in your life. If you want confidence, put yourself in stressful situations and come out on top. Do it because you're the kind of person who succeeds in those situations.
3.. Correct your self-talk. Never think anything bad about yourself. If you observe things you aren't proud of, quietly change them and let that be that. Self criticism should be constructive, not destructive.
4.. Change your body language. Put your chest out and smile. Be open, warm and present in the moment and truly feel like you belong wherever you are. People will subconsciously notice and accept you if you accept yourself.
5.. Change your own narrative. You can take the same exact life and tell the story of a winner or a loser by emphasizing different parts of the same exact chain of events. Why let yourself be a loser? You can just as easily interpret your life in a way that gives you power.
#4 https://youtu.be/r7dWsJ-mEyI
I can really relate to number four, because I watched a TED talks a while back about how to stand up straight. They showed that even in the most primitive society that people who put their heels together and point their toes out it automatically let your body align in the best possible way. It may feel awkward at first, but it’s very efficient when you’re standing in line and waiting your turn. Try it out.
I hold my phone up in front of my face when I’m standing in line, so I’m not looking down, or hunched over. Not only is this good for your posture, it’s good because you’re paying attention to your surroundings. it looks a little weird, and people sometimes think you’re videotaping them, but you’re not. your head is up and your eyes forward
I couldn’t find the original TEDTalks, but this is a good one anyway.
Hope you don't mind another one that I have found worthy:
You are your own harshest critic/judge. But use this to work on improving what you will do the next time.
"Character is what one does when no one is watching".
Grandpa Dog esq
Aka, integrity.
Always used that definition with my students.
And an oldie but goodie. "If you can't run with the Big Dogs, sit on the porch."
"If you can't cut it, don't pick up the knife."
Grandpa Dog esq
That Grandpa Dog esq is a real gem of a hound.