Our son was sober for 5 years. He contracted cellulitis back in February. His leg swelled to 5+ times its normal size so the docs in the hospital had him on a cocktail of meds, including pain killers. They knew his history but had to put him on the pain meds. Well, yesterday, he was arrested. He had meth and heroin. He had lost a lot of weight with the cellulitis after his 1 month hospital stay. He comes over on Fridays when my husband always fries fish. He seemed normal but I asked him if he was on drugs because of his weight loss and he told me no and that he'd take a drug test. I should have tested him but trusted he was being truthful.
Our hearts are shattered. He called earlier wanting us to bail him out but we told him no. I told him he was the one who made the decision to start taking drugs again and that he has to face the consequences of his poor choices. He threatened to hang himself. I told him that wouldn't solve anything but if he made that choice we were not responsible and we sure as hell would not feel guilty. He hung up. He tried to call again but now, I've turned off my phone. He'll have a hearing next week and hopefully the judge will decide that he can go to rehab before his trial and whatever time he is given.
Anyway, I know firsthand from previous asks that your prayers are powerful. Asking for our son and for our family. Thanks so much!
You can still be supportive of your son without cutting him off. I had a similar situation with a family member a while back, and I regret not bailing them out and being supportive. if your son is suicidal, shutting your phone off so he can’t get a hold of you. You is a really shitty thing to do. There are consequences to actions, but having a supportive family is important. Choose wisely, because it could change the trajectory of his entire life. That being said… Regarding bailing him out, depending on the bail amount, that would be something to be considered. I’m sorry you’re having to go through this with your family member, because it really sucks big time. be praying for salvation, and for the Lord to change his life. Jesus is his only hope, but he needs to be able to hear his voice right now.
Thank you for this.
you’re welcome. I know it’s a very difficult time right now, and sometimes we feel like you were doing the right thing at the time, but later have regrets. I’m praying for you and your family to have an optimal outcome from this situation, and that Christ will change lives.