Our son was sober for 5 years. He contracted cellulitis back in February. His leg swelled to 5+ times its normal size so the docs in the hospital had him on a cocktail of meds, including pain killers. They knew his history but had to put him on the pain meds. Well, yesterday, he was arrested. He had meth and heroin. He had lost a lot of weight with the cellulitis after his 1 month hospital stay. He comes over on Fridays when my husband always fries fish. He seemed normal but I asked him if he was on drugs because of his weight loss and he told me no and that he'd take a drug test. I should have tested him but trusted he was being truthful.
Our hearts are shattered. He called earlier wanting us to bail him out but we told him no. I told him he was the one who made the decision to start taking drugs again and that he has to face the consequences of his poor choices. He threatened to hang himself. I told him that wouldn't solve anything but if he made that choice we were not responsible and we sure as hell would not feel guilty. He hung up. He tried to call again but now, I've turned off my phone. He'll have a hearing next week and hopefully the judge will decide that he can go to rehab before his trial and whatever time he is given.
Anyway, I know firsthand from previous asks that your prayers are powerful. Asking for our son and for our family. Thanks so much!
This is pretty much exactly what my husband and I told him last night. If only he had come to us earlier, we would have helped. He told us he was trying to protect us and I told him BS.That was his addiction. He has to learn to fight the temptation. We're here for him but the bulk of the fight is his.
I’m 70 I have a twin, it’s been HELL for fifty years. Question do you have Fifty years to wait and see if “THEY” get it together. The words get it together has two meanings yours and his. I give zero energy into someone that is an addict. What is the definition of an addict? a person who cannot stop doing or using something, especially something harmful: a drug/heroin addict. a gambling addict. Excuse me THEY DON’T WANT TO STOP.
E is waiting to hear about rehab. He was sober for 5 years and we're praying he can achieve sobriety again. I agree it's hell and I'm sorry you and your family have had to experience dealing with an addict. Since my husband and I are 66yo, nope we likely don't have 50 years. That said, we have firm faith in God and know through Him all things are possible.