I'm torn on ADHD, because on the one hand it's a very real condition (disorder is debatable), but on the other hand it seems like when people are told about it they become lazy fucks. Meanwhile, plenty of boomers and gen x who would now qualify as having it are living perfectly fine lives with some difficulties that they've learned to manage.

The labels, as you say, often take away people's ability to improve by making them unable to see past some supposed disorder. Can't improve if your problem is "incurable brain defect". But people can and do improve, so it's clearly not as clear-cut as the people who push the labels and the people who hide behind the labels would make it seem.