Can we deconstruct your statement? If an average gay person wants to live a quiet life and be left alone, then how would you hear about it? I don't know how many gay people you know, but I know hundreds. Only a handful were so insecure as to be activists. But those are the ones that YOU are likely to see.

Gays don't have to reproduce. It's an epigenetic expression during fetal development. Gays are born and always will be. We can unpack that if you'd like.

There are definitely problems in the gay community. I'd hazard the theory that we'd see a lot less of those problems if gays didn't feel the pressure to repress themselves. Repressed sexuality regularly leads to an eventual explosion of bad behavior.

Well since gays were tolerated in every empire of antiquity, that isn't a particularly compelling argument. You may as well argue that eating grain causes empires to collapse. Tell me, which empires were intolerant of gays and survived?

Do you really think that societal-ending hedonism is limited to gays? I'd suggest poking your head into the world if so. It's not gay people who are jumping into DNC abortion vans or becoming single mothers.