I remember when I was kid and in sports we were taught to be gracious Losers AND Winners.One time we played a team and one of the girls in line was saying you suck instead of good game. I got in huge trouble for stopping the line yelling if we suck then how come we moped the floor with you? and confronting her. She tried to initially pretend I miss heard but my team mates backed me up. She ended up shedding crocodile tears and it was a huge ordeal- because she MADE it a huge ordeal. Years later we played again and guess what she was still at it. That time my coach backed me up. Next year no you suck only good game. I do think there are individuals genuinely terrified because of lies and I genuinely feel bad for them but I know there are pot stirrers looking to play the victim and from my experience they only stop if they are exposed. I am struggling hard with judge not and that is the truth