I’m giving people the benefit of the doubt that they had proper foundation for marriage from the beginning. That they intended to have a family and raise children in a stable structured wholesome environment.

If along the course of life one person’s susceptibility to temptation, in its various forms, compromises the partnership, then the opportunity for spiritual growth arises. Assessing what made the temptation seem desirable, as in “What do I really want?” Or else it all goes kaflooey which is not uncommon.

If people get married because she looks hot and he’s got money and children are an unintended afterthought there wasn’t a lot to start with and it was doomed before it began. More kaflooey, and I’d never advocate a lifetime enduring such a mess. Counseling would be laughably useless. One can’t help but be sympathetic to the kids stuck with these people.

All of life’s dramas provide opportunities for spiritual growth. Or our stupid choices get repeated time after time and we die ignorant fools unaware of our own foolishness blaming everyone else for our misery.

I’m plenty stupid and have had some awful marriages. Much damage in my wake. I’m truly sorry. They ended badly and gave me opportunities to reflect on where I went wrong. It took some time, but I finally got it right. And I got lucky and found a good woman. It’s made me smug. Sorry. I’m such an asshole. I have too high regard for myself. It’s my character flaw, but at least I recognize it, and I do work at being better. I’m old as dirt, (and twice as ugly) so I better get busy repenting while I’m still able. Thanks for helping me try to improve.