Was invited by in laws for Christmas Eve dinner weeks in advance. They even invited my mom and grandma. They served us 3-4 day old meat from a dinner party they had days earlier. There was no new food prepared for us including even boiled vegetables being 3 days old. They are wealthy people as am I.
Are we wrong to feel disrespected by this?
Well said, c'est la vie.
4 day old left overs are a bit much. personally, with the dinner sounding to have a high fat content, I'd normally be worries about spoilage, but if it was frozen, it sounds like they at least tried to be concious of issues.
Likewise, serving a meal like that may have been less of a slight, if the step-mom's family is super snooty, they probably felt like they had no choice but to serve expensive fancy food friday number of reasons.
If you can feed someone left-overs, it typically means you're very comfortable with the person and you knowo that the person you're serving isn't gonna judge you.
Does it make it right? Depends on your situation. Did the food at least taste good? That would be my question.