Circumstances as they are with my wife and I, I will only say that we've been "travelling" when in reality, we actually were traveling, but were supposed to be home 10 months ago... Thanks, covid.
Anyway, just got off the phone with the dad. He gets 100% of his information from FB and msm... I was called a conspiracy theorist for asking questions, that's it, just asking questions... Asking questions makes me a fascist, qanon believing, conspiracy theorist, apparently. I even played dumb, which was only about a 50% effort, and said that I have no idea what's happening back there and just wanted his perspective.. Same as 5 years ago. Hates Trump, hates having his accepted narrative questioned.
I would like to have my dad back, so this day of reckoning for the msm and peel back of their manipulative psyop campaign cannot come soon enough.
Wow. Congratulations on your freedom and on making your own a family. You sound like you have been gifted with a lot of insight and clarity.
My husband's parents do more with gaslighting, manipulation, spying, and unfortunately we now think poisoning (munchausen by proxy). It's horrible enough that my husband can't stand being in a relationship with them but all deniable enough that he's worried it's all in his head and is guilty when avoiding them. Our first child is on the way. Hopefully he will find the clarity you found and learn what to do about his relationship with them.
As hard as it is, do the right thing for the sake of your children. Munchausen by proxy could kill them.
Unfortunately we don't have any concrete evidence, just a lot of suspicion. My husband is torn apart by the guilt that he could be wrong. I don't think he's wrong but I can't imagine how hard it must be if it's your own parents you suspect.
Thank you my fren. Yes, his parents seem to have munchausen in addition to munchausen by proxy. Every year like clockwork his mother was in the hospital right when it was time for finals so it would be hard for him to succeed academically. So he's used to their medical manipulations.
He just needs to find some evidence that he can be content with it's not all in his head. His parents have gaslit him his whole life and he questions himself a lot when it comes to them.
Wow, thank you for sharing this. It's very helpful to hear about the pattern being being repeated, it makes it easier to identify and understand.
Yes, my husband's mother sounds just like yours. She liked to come into his room and faint whenever he was busy or things were going well for him (or if someone else was genuinely sick). The high school graduation story you told is eerily similar to what she tried at our wedding. They use medical manipulations as a way to be the center of attention while also "punishing" their victims. It's interesting she did it at your high school graduation, we noticed my husband's mother always gets extra controlling and abusive during moments of passage, when my husband is getting further out of her control because of age/achievements/etc.
Congratulations again on freeing yourself from them. I hope my husband finds the same peace in his decision (whatever it is) that you have found.