In truth we've accrued some stares, wife and I agreed early to treat our kids with same respect as adults.

Imagine when you have company and a 4 year old comes up and says excuse me, and you stop your grown up conversation to have a quick talk with the kid.

Pissed off some people, got questions from others. The kids are now teens and imo are well adjusted, we're told by their teachers they are some of the best students they have, and most respectful.

We must have done something right I guess.