I know it’s everywhere but your pressure and expectations will do the opposite of what you’re intending. You’re putting him in a super stressful spot by him feeling like he is choosing between his cultural norm (in class) and not disappointing his father (who he probably looks up to).
Obviously we, as adults, know that this isn’t a big deal in the grand scheme of things because he has so much life ahead of him. But I can guarantee you that this is the most stressful thing in your sons life. Regular pressures from a sons father are stressful enough for a kid.
He will know he doesn’t need to be afraid when he sees his father (who he looks up to) not wearing a mask and also not being afraid. Its as simple as that. When you walk around unafraid, and he sees you don’t get sick, he will have a better understanding. Talking about it constantly does the opposite.
When he gets older he won’t even remember the presidency of Trump. It will be something he has to go back and research. So it’s even pointless to discuss IMO. Trump or Biden being president is so irrelevant to a kid (in their mind, not in their policies) that you’re probably speaking a different language to him. All he knows is that dads putting expectations on him that he knows he can’t meet.
There is always a counter culture and it’s usually in spite of being it forced. If you pressure your son he can counter your culture.
Thanks for writing that. No one is even thinking about the kid’s perspective. It’s all “move out” “man up” “live free or die” (what does that even mean for a 9 year old?) I even saw one guy comment and tell OP that he’s not leading his family and he’s a shit father. Like gee, thanks for the advice you cunt.
OP didn’t reply to my comment but I hope he reads it and it resonates with him
I know it’s everywhere but your pressure and expectations will do the opposite of what you’re intending. You’re putting him in a super stressful spot by him feeling like he is choosing between his cultural norm (in class) and not disappointing his father (who he probably looks up to).
Obviously we, as adults, know that this isn’t a big deal in the grand scheme of things because he has so much life ahead of him. But I can guarantee you that this is the most stressful thing in your sons life. Regular pressures from a sons father are stressful enough for a kid.
He will know he doesn’t need to be afraid when he sees his father (who he looks up to) not wearing a mask and also not being afraid. Its as simple as that. When you walk around unafraid, and he sees you don’t get sick, he will have a better understanding. Talking about it constantly does the opposite.
When he gets older he won’t even remember the presidency of Trump. It will be something he has to go back and research. So it’s even pointless to discuss IMO. Trump or Biden being president is so irrelevant to a kid (in their mind, not in their policies) that you’re probably speaking a different language to him. All he knows is that dads putting expectations on him that he knows he can’t meet.
There is always a counter culture and it’s usually in spite of being it forced. If you pressure your son he can counter your culture.
Thanks for writing that. No one is even thinking about the kid’s perspective. It’s all “move out” “man up” “live free or die” (what does that even mean for a 9 year old?) I even saw one guy comment and tell OP that he’s not leading his family and he’s a shit father. Like gee, thanks for the advice you cunt.
OP didn’t reply to my comment but I hope he reads it and it resonates with him