My mom was the same way with my sister. When I had my son I showed my mom real science and told her I did not hold the choices she made against her so she should accept that I was making my own choices. The best decision I made besides giving natural birth with no drugs was breastfeeding.
Had an epidural with my first two, no epidural with my third. There are pros and cons to both types of deliveries. I hate the term natural birth because the opposite is what, an unnatural birth? You can say an unmedicated birth. But we shouldn’t be shaming people who have to have emergency c sections (that save both mom and baby’s lives!!!) that they haven’t had a natural birth. Or that people who did choose to use drugs had an unnatural birth either. We’ve come so far in technology that birth has become a lot less scary. It is however, still incredibly dangerous for both mom and baby even with all the advances we have made. I believe the best birth “plan” is whatever allows both mom and baby to live through the process. Not one of my deliveries has gone according to how I thought it would be and that’s ok. I have breastfed all of my babies and I haven’t had any problems with it. My sister, however, had to stop breastfeeding her second son after her fourth time getting mastitis and was so grateful that formula was invented. I think the best thing to do to prepare for being a mom is obviously decide how you want things to go but if they don’t go according to plan? That’s ok too.
Sorry my fren, it was never my intention to shame anyone with my word choice. Far from it! I of course agree that safety is the number one priority. Congratulations on your beautiful family!
Sorry if that came out as an attack, I definitely didn’t mean it that way! My sister in law almost died with her first (didn’t dilate past an 8, baby got stuck on her hips and she started hemorrhaging) and had to get an emergency c section. She’s had a hard time with the term “natural birth” because she tried and almost died and would have died had this been back in the old days. I am not trying to be a snob or woke or anything by coming out against the term, I just think unmedicated/medicated birth is the right way to phrase things because so many women don’t have a choice sometimes and giving birth (no matter how!) is an incredible experience and we shouldn’t make women feel less if their birth went different than planned (or even if it went exactly as planned haha!) because in a world where being a mother is constantly under attack, we need to stick together more than ever!
I used hypnosis to train my brain to not feel pain. Fear is what does the most to cause pain during birth. Trust that God designed your body perfectly to give birth. You can do it
Thank you sharing your experience with me my fren! I've heard good things about hypnosis, I'm going to look into it more seriously after your recommendation!
Congrats! My last came naturally even though I begged for an epidural. "Honey the baby is RIGHT there! Just a couple pushes!" I was so afraid because I hadn't prepared for a no-drug birth and baby came fast.
My mom was the same way with my sister. When I had my son I showed my mom real science and told her I did not hold the choices she made against her so she should accept that I was making my own choices. The best decision I made besides giving natural birth with no drugs was breastfeeding.
I want to give natural birth as well (I'm currently pregnant with my first). Glad to hear you had a good experience with it!
Had an epidural with my first two, no epidural with my third. There are pros and cons to both types of deliveries. I hate the term natural birth because the opposite is what, an unnatural birth? You can say an unmedicated birth. But we shouldn’t be shaming people who have to have emergency c sections (that save both mom and baby’s lives!!!) that they haven’t had a natural birth. Or that people who did choose to use drugs had an unnatural birth either. We’ve come so far in technology that birth has become a lot less scary. It is however, still incredibly dangerous for both mom and baby even with all the advances we have made. I believe the best birth “plan” is whatever allows both mom and baby to live through the process. Not one of my deliveries has gone according to how I thought it would be and that’s ok. I have breastfed all of my babies and I haven’t had any problems with it. My sister, however, had to stop breastfeeding her second son after her fourth time getting mastitis and was so grateful that formula was invented. I think the best thing to do to prepare for being a mom is obviously decide how you want things to go but if they don’t go according to plan? That’s ok too.
Sorry my fren, it was never my intention to shame anyone with my word choice. Far from it! I of course agree that safety is the number one priority. Congratulations on your beautiful family!
Sorry if that came out as an attack, I definitely didn’t mean it that way! My sister in law almost died with her first (didn’t dilate past an 8, baby got stuck on her hips and she started hemorrhaging) and had to get an emergency c section. She’s had a hard time with the term “natural birth” because she tried and almost died and would have died had this been back in the old days. I am not trying to be a snob or woke or anything by coming out against the term, I just think unmedicated/medicated birth is the right way to phrase things because so many women don’t have a choice sometimes and giving birth (no matter how!) is an incredible experience and we shouldn’t make women feel less if their birth went different than planned (or even if it went exactly as planned haha!) because in a world where being a mother is constantly under attack, we need to stick together more than ever!
I used hypnosis to train my brain to not feel pain. Fear is what does the most to cause pain during birth. Trust that God designed your body perfectly to give birth. You can do it
Thank you sharing your experience with me my fren! I've heard good things about hypnosis, I'm going to look into it more seriously after your recommendation!
Congrats! My last came naturally even though I begged for an epidural. "Honey the baby is RIGHT there! Just a couple pushes!" I was so afraid because I hadn't prepared for a no-drug birth and baby came fast.
You can totally do it if I can do it.
What an amazing story! Hahaha! Thank you so much for sharing! I'm so glad you and your little one are safe and healthy. Congratulations!