People are never ready for finding out kids are and were tortured. No prep will change that anyway. It's stupid to pretend otherwise.

Anytime my mom tells a childhood story about her abusive household ( like my uncle being hung in front of the family or my grandfather's basement, or him raping her) the other people always shut down, assume she's lying, or get beyond uncomfortable and either change the topic or leave....

Trying to play nice nice is just a waste of time. We need the evidence they can't ignore and then rip the band-aid off. Going slow for feelings sake I really think will just translate to it never happening.....