Definition of misogyny: hatred of, aversion to, or prejudice against women
And I agree that less people are raised with morals anymore. Because morals with no real basis can be changed. I'm a Christian. My morals are based on the Word of God. They are unchangeable. So if you want to know where these women are, they are in church. They are looking for men who love and follow Jesus, which is possibly why you've never dated or been around these types of women. Now, no one is perfect of course, but being with someone who seeks to follow and honor God is a game changer.
My husband is the most introverted person I have ever met. He was lacking confidence and really struggling when I met him. But he loves Jesus, and his love of the Lord drew me to him. He is such an amazing man. He loves me fiercely, and is so honorable. I'm so proud of him. He is my very best friend and sharing my life with him is a privilege and an honor. And I'm not saying this to rub it in. I'm saying that this is possible. I've seen it. My parents and his parents modeled this to us. I have so many friends that all have beautiful marriages and relationships. It is possible.
But the most important relationship is the relationship we have with Jesus Christ. You can't have morals without Him because where does the standard come from? Who is to say monogamy is right and adultery is wrong? What makes murder wrong? Where do these standards come from without God? We are seeing what happens to a society when you take God out of it.
I truly wish you peace and I promise I'm not trying to diagnose you. I just feel really sorry for you, and it's like I can feel your anger and bitterness through the computer screen. I don't want anyone to feel that way. I don't want anyone to ever give up hope. I have nothing but love for you my friend. Jesus loves you too. He died for you and wants to have a relationship with you. The rest is up to you. I have said a prayer for you, and I wish you the very best.
Oh I completely agree not to just blindly trust anyone. We all need to use discernment. This is WHY I believe in waiting to have sex. Sex muddles things and gets emotions and feelings involved and makes it harder to make more rational decisions. To use my relationship as an example, my husband and I chose to have a friendship for a month before we even started officially dating. We got to know each other to see if we were compatible. We were extremely intentional in our dating and didn't see dating as "fun" or just hanging out. I think if more people did this, there would be a lot less hurt. You get time to really get to know someone as a fellow human before letting your feelings get really involved.
So I completely agree not to just go all in right away. Take some time. Get to know the person. Instant gratification is a huge issue in our culture. Building deep meaningful relationships and trust takes a long time and it takes having a lot of discernment. But if you want to have a good partner, the first step is to be a good person. If you want respect and love and honor, it's important to be a respectful, loving, and honorable person. It doesn't mean to trust just anyone, it just means by showing good qualities you are more likely to attract a partner with good qualities. <3
You claimed that you were a misogynist, not me.
Definition of misogyny: hatred of, aversion to, or prejudice against women
And I agree that less people are raised with morals anymore. Because morals with no real basis can be changed. I'm a Christian. My morals are based on the Word of God. They are unchangeable. So if you want to know where these women are, they are in church. They are looking for men who love and follow Jesus, which is possibly why you've never dated or been around these types of women. Now, no one is perfect of course, but being with someone who seeks to follow and honor God is a game changer.
My husband is the most introverted person I have ever met. He was lacking confidence and really struggling when I met him. But he loves Jesus, and his love of the Lord drew me to him. He is such an amazing man. He loves me fiercely, and is so honorable. I'm so proud of him. He is my very best friend and sharing my life with him is a privilege and an honor. And I'm not saying this to rub it in. I'm saying that this is possible. I've seen it. My parents and his parents modeled this to us. I have so many friends that all have beautiful marriages and relationships. It is possible.
But the most important relationship is the relationship we have with Jesus Christ. You can't have morals without Him because where does the standard come from? Who is to say monogamy is right and adultery is wrong? What makes murder wrong? Where do these standards come from without God? We are seeing what happens to a society when you take God out of it.
I truly wish you peace and I promise I'm not trying to diagnose you. I just feel really sorry for you, and it's like I can feel your anger and bitterness through the computer screen. I don't want anyone to feel that way. I don't want anyone to ever give up hope. I have nothing but love for you my friend. Jesus loves you too. He died for you and wants to have a relationship with you. The rest is up to you. I have said a prayer for you, and I wish you the very best.
Oh I completely agree not to just blindly trust anyone. We all need to use discernment. This is WHY I believe in waiting to have sex. Sex muddles things and gets emotions and feelings involved and makes it harder to make more rational decisions. To use my relationship as an example, my husband and I chose to have a friendship for a month before we even started officially dating. We got to know each other to see if we were compatible. We were extremely intentional in our dating and didn't see dating as "fun" or just hanging out. I think if more people did this, there would be a lot less hurt. You get time to really get to know someone as a fellow human before letting your feelings get really involved.
So I completely agree not to just go all in right away. Take some time. Get to know the person. Instant gratification is a huge issue in our culture. Building deep meaningful relationships and trust takes a long time and it takes having a lot of discernment. But if you want to have a good partner, the first step is to be a good person. If you want respect and love and honor, it's important to be a respectful, loving, and honorable person. It doesn't mean to trust just anyone, it just means by showing good qualities you are more likely to attract a partner with good qualities. <3