At least he was upfront about what he wanted, as opposed to pretending he wanted one thing while angling for another, and I'd give him points for that had I been the one interacting with me. I'd probably have even told him so.
Actually, I did! I gave him points for being straight about it. Even told him so. I just said that for me to really enjoy the physical aspect (which I very much did with my husband), the cerebral and emotional connection has to come first. Thats all.
Then he tried to debate the point of how sex is a great way to get to know each other, and thats when I wished him a lovely day and was on my way.
His immediate dismissal of your very cogent and oh-so important point about the cerebral/emotional connection (which applies equally to me and to many women) demonstrates that he's likely dismissive of many things that are important to anyone he's in a relationship with.
At least he was upfront about what he wanted, as opposed to pretending he wanted one thing while angling for another, and I'd give him points for that had I been the one interacting with me. I'd probably have even told him so.
Actually, I did! I gave him points for being straight about it. Even told him so. I just said that for me to really enjoy the physical aspect (which I very much did with my husband), the cerebral and emotional connection has to come first. Thats all.
Then he tried to debate the point of how sex is a great way to get to know each other, and thats when I wished him a lovely day and was on my way.
Good for you giving him points!
His immediate dismissal of your very cogent and oh-so important point about the cerebral/emotional connection (which applies equally to me and to many women) demonstrates that he's likely dismissive of many things that are important to anyone he's in a relationship with.
Yeah, I'm not easily offended and prefer hard truth to pretty BS any day.
And the toxic air freshener hanging from his mirror was enough of a red flag for me, never mind the dismissive attitude!