I guess you know who not to deal with already then.

I don't know what kind of planning you're doing, but when I got married just a few years ago, we were married in a church (free), held our reception in another church (also free), and paid $1,000 for decorations to an outside vendor who, incidentally, ran a themed B&B where we stayed for our first night. We didn't spend much, it was tasteful and surprisingly nice, and it was a good time.

Sure, I was criticized by one of my wife's rich, rich friends who had dancing at her wedding reception and did a full meal and stuff (all on daddy's dime), but I've literally never been to a wedding like that. It's always been a reception at the nearby church with light refreshments. Nothing too fancy. Of course, I had to pay for virtually all of my wedding and reception, too.

Of course, go with what you want, but just know you don't have to spend much or hire a million woke weirdos in order to have a wonderful and memorable wedding.

Congratulations! Marriage is great! You'll love it too.