Good morning Peres!
I haven’t been on here in awhile but I’m personally in a desperate situation and I know there are a number of believers here so.
I’ve asked a few other places online as well as everyone I know that is a believer in person and I want to ask here as well.
Straight up my finacé is addicted to meth. I’ve known for a while now but she just admitted it to me a few weeks back. I’ve been angry and bitter and sad and every other emotion imaginable. She is a believer and I have seen her weep and pray and beg God to help her.
I was thinking of cutting her out of my life completely but after serious prayer time I do not think the Lord wants me to do that.
This addiction is destroying her life, causing immeasurable pain for her daughter and selfishly crushing my heart as well.
I’d ask for prayer for her, prayer for the people she gets her drugs from, prayer for her daughter who she hasn’t seen in weeks on end now and prayer for myself that my anger doesn’t overtake me and I remain faithful to trust God in this very difficult time instead of taking matters into my own hands.
Thank you for reading. Believer or not. Thank you.
Stay strong Pede’s! May the Lord guide and keep each of us.
Addiction is a bitch. My experience with it, is you can't force anyone to change.
The best thing you can do, is notice when she is at a point when she wants to change, you help as much as you can.
She needs to be the one to want to change, otherwise it leads to relapse.
At that point, she needs to go to treatment, or on a vacation where she can't get her hands on it and can get over the physical addiction.
Next step, is have her call her dealer and tell them "if you talk to me again I'll go to the police". They will ignore her, and most likely won't retaliate.
Mental addiction takes longer, you lose the spark that kept you going, and things seem pointless. The hardest part is when you dream about doing the drug, your brain sends that feel good feeling, and you wake up in a sweat. This is when she needs you there, to be positive and supportive.
I'm not an expert, I've just experienced this with family, so this next part is probably bad advice, but when someone is addicted so something that hard, it's not going to be easy. My family member took up pot to stay away from the bad stuff. In my kind it was the lesser of two evils, and I don't think he could have done it 100% sober. When you do hard stuff you burn the candle at both ends, and once you dance with the devil, it lasts forever. That's why at AA meetings they always introduce themselves as an alcoholic, even if they've been sober for 20 years.
Well put, I agree with the police thing being dangerous, I was hesitant to put that in, but its what my family member did. I guess it worked because they didn't know where they lived.
Definitely just block the number if they know too much about you.
Hmmm . . given the damage that drug does to so many, I wouldn't have any qualms about letting the police know who the dealer is - anonymously, of course, for your safety. You will very likely end up helping save lives - and maybe even the soul of the dealer.
Bad advice.
Yes I agree. Sometimes an addict will always be an addict and the best thing to do is ween them on to something less dangerous. Weed is a lot less dangerous than meth.
Eventually though you need to go clean and get Jesus in your life.
I know many heroin addicts who owe thier life to weed. Weed helped them kick the heroin.weed helps keep them off it.