I'm in WA........but the one closest to Antarctica ;) Perth, Western Australia. I've noticed that some states in the US lack support for people with disabilities and my heart goes out to anyone in that situation because I'm guessing that the mental health services aren't there either. I'd go nuts as a single dad there. In Australia we have this thing called the NDIS [The National Disability Insurance Scheme] and "it provides support to eligible people with intellectual, physical, sensory, cognitive and psychosocial disability. Early intervention supports can also be provided for eligible people with disability or children with developmental delay". They help with everything from therapy/therapeutic devices to in home support workers, workplace support, gardeners, whatever. They are an absolute pain the ass to deal with but once you know how the system works you can smash through the brick walls pretty quickly. It blows my mind that most countries don't have something like this but then I remember that most countries aren't as resource rich as us, we basically give money to the other states and territories as we pull it out of the ground here in WA. I really feel for you living in Cali, the politics of that state alone are such a mess :(