I think you're absolutely right that teaching and nurturing are two different things. When I say teaching, I mean the math, science, history, etc. that is taught to my son in school, which I'm really not qualified to do. Nurturing is a different story, and I have no worries as to my abilities there.

As to your mode comparison, I'm not so sure how beautiful or sexy it is on a woman (I wouldn't have described it that way, anyway), but I do believe that sometimes it's necessary for a woman to work outside the home and help to provide. There are those of us who can do both, and the cost of living is only going up, even if you don't have lots of luxuries like cable/satellite, streaming services, expensive vacations, pricey cars. Good food costs more vs. junk food. I work full time, but I also cook for my family and support my husband in every way possible. I'm up at 4:30 a.m. to make his coffee, pack his breakfast and make sure he has everything he needs on his way to work. He doesn't do the dishes, or the laundry, or the cooking, ever. And I don't expect him to.

And, unfortunately, there are also some women who are put in a position of having to provide; i.e. - widows, and women whose husbands took off and abandoned their families. If a woman marries a man whom she believes loves her, and will take care of her and their children, and then he decides to run off with a young blonde, never to be seen again, wouldn't that woman have to get into Mode B whether she wanted to or not? It happens. Certainly not all men are that way, but some are, and I don't think any woman knowingly signs up for something like that.