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I have custody of my 3 oldest granddaughters; two of which are 15 and 13. Neither had been taught to do anything. It literally takes an act of Congress to get them to clean their rooms, their bathroom, and one ferret cage which I didn't know I was taking custody of at the time. The 15 year old is much more lazier than the 13 year old, but the 13 year old is the one I was telling you about the floor. Also they complain that I don't let them do anything; then when I ask they give me the third degree. I finally started letting them do their own laundry "which the 15 year old swears she knew how to do" but threw everything in without sorting, turning decal shirts inside out, or straightening out rolled up socks or pants. Then she declared I was too picky when I showed her the right way. It has been an argument that is more of a battle than doing myself; but I know I must teach them. You're right, mopping and doing dishes (by hand) is next on my list. Can't wait to see how that turns out.
I wish you luck! Teens can be a "challenge" to say the least, but you're doing it the right way.
They've got to learn somewhere. This is why I now have them. They lived in conditions "unfit for human habitation" as the Child Services worker said. I knew they were living in filth, but I had no earthly idea it was that bad. My daughter-in-law came from a family that weren't what you'd call "clean" people. I tried to tell my son that as I went to school with her mother. My son had to find out the hard way and soon they divorced. She got the kids and my son remarried and started a new life. He pays his child support but the daughter-in-law used it to buy meth, run around with all types of bad people, neglect my grandchildren and then feed them food from the dumpsters behind Walmart. The house was infested with roaches, bed bugs and the girls had "super" head lice. There was no running water and the commode was backed up. The refrigerator was no longer working and was molded up. Clothes were piled up everywhere and the Social Worker said it was not only unfit for humans, but a fire hazard as well. My son could not take his own children as the house they live in isn't big enough; but he lives right down the road from me and there was no one with me and my husband so we had two spare bedrooms. It has been a nightmare at times, but in the long run, it has been worth it. Hopefully I can change some things and make them responsible adults. I have to constantly stay on them about picking up after themselves, not throwing paper and pop cans in their room floors, pick up their dirty clothes, etc. They were NEVER taught. Sometimes I have to tell them "Look, this is the reason why you lost your home. It is not all your fault as your mother was supposed to teach you, but we can't continue living in filth. You do NOT want to lose your home or kids when you grow up do you. Well this is why you must learn to clean." They have no argument for that.
Wow! No wonder they have no clue how to clean. Thank God you are there for them. I can't imagine raising children in the environment they came from. Prayers for you and the girls. Sounds like they're in the right place now.
Thank you for your prayers. If you've ever watched the series of 'Hoarding; buried alive" that's what their house looked like. And I still haven't figured out WHY there were about 15 to 20 piles and I mean HUGE PILES of cloths stacked in mountains in their back yard. Someone reported her for the cloths and her father who is a "Constable" was told by the Judge to clean it up. I think then whoever reported the yard, also reported the house. My main concern was the drugs she was on and if my 4 year old granddaughter who is now 6 was going to find something and take it.