Firstly by getting up and continuing on every day. Learning to overcome and move on with your life. Learning to rise above what those pieces of shit did and reminding yourself you not only deserve better but ARE better. Justice is coming... albeit slowly, but they do not have much longer left and they know it. But the most effective thing you can do is keep living your life and improving yourself. That's what I would tell your friend.
This advice is too often underestimated. It's great advice.
My friend has spent many years following this advice and it has brought my friend to a place where they feel they can finally speak out. They want to because the person who did what they did is still being left alone with children via their profession. In order to advance and heal more, my friend is at the point where they need to reconcile with their past silence and know that they did what they could to protect other children. Other children from my friends past expressed he did similar things to them so my friend has no reason to believe that he has stopped or that my friend was the only one it repeatedly happened to.
Should my friend stay silent? If yes, is that something my friend should pray on and seek guidance and patience for? My friend feels God has put it on their soul to say something, even at the risk of my friend's wellbeing. My friend wants closure, rehabilitation and healing for everyone, justice and not revenge. Also, to make sure the person who did these things is kept away from children. If my friend should not stay silent, what can my friend do in an unbalanced system?
If being courageous was safe, we'd all be heroes. Absolutely your friend should speak out but they are correct in being scared. If this is in the US there are many options for self protection. Firearms in particular are a good start and any local range should offer safety courses too.
I wish I could offer more than just words on an internet forum, but that's all I got along with thoughts and prayers. There is no easy answer, except to consider the well being of other children. Is that not a noble sacrifice should something horrible happen to your friend?
Yes, my friend is in the process of getting legally armed and trained for the purpose of self-defense. My friend hopes to not need it, but is aware that there is a very real possibility that they might.
Thoughts and prayers are welcomed and appreciated. My friend has faith that if forcibly silenced, God will be there and know that my friend did what they could to help others. And my friend is appreciative of what you have had to say. Searching for answers on how to say something has been difficult and my friend doesn't expect any answers from anyone, only hopes for them. Whether or not my friend's potential sacrifice is noble is of no concern to my friend, only that my friend does what is possible to help protect the likely many children affected.
Thank you for helping me talk to my friend. It's very appreciated.
Edit: I've upvoted your comments in a show of appreciation for the quality of the content, however, it's not showing up. Probably too new or something, but I wanted to let you know incase it's not only on my end.
I appreciate the thought of fake internet points, however just do me one simple favor and pay it forward. Some internet rando or someone in your life may come along needing random advice and you might be the one to give what they need. If there is anything more I can do to help, feel free to reach out privately. Otherwise, I wish blessings and protection for both of you. It's a shit existence we live in, but I'm starting to realize that is because of the evil people in power. We are not naturally prone to cause harm and those that are will be dealt with soon. To reinforce this, it takes courage like the one your friend has to help bring the evil bastards down.
One last piece, consistency is going to be key. Make sure your friend knows they need their story to stand up to scrutiny. This may mean possibly being berated by the investigating authority. It's sometimes used as a tactic to verify authenticity. Make sure your friend knows not to take anything personally. Also I recommend going through the County Sheriff first and most importantly remember they are NOT your friend. They exist to enforce the law and nothing more. You are the emotional support structure for your friend, not them. Everything going forward with investigations should be seen as a business relationship between your friend and investigators.
Firstly by getting up and continuing on every day. Learning to overcome and move on with your life. Learning to rise above what those pieces of shit did and reminding yourself you not only deserve better but ARE better. Justice is coming... albeit slowly, but they do not have much longer left and they know it. But the most effective thing you can do is keep living your life and improving yourself. That's what I would tell your friend.
This advice is too often underestimated. It's great advice.
My friend has spent many years following this advice and it has brought my friend to a place where they feel they can finally speak out. They want to because the person who did what they did is still being left alone with children via their profession. In order to advance and heal more, my friend is at the point where they need to reconcile with their past silence and know that they did what they could to protect other children. Other children from my friends past expressed he did similar things to them so my friend has no reason to believe that he has stopped or that my friend was the only one it repeatedly happened to.
Should my friend stay silent? If yes, is that something my friend should pray on and seek guidance and patience for? My friend feels God has put it on their soul to say something, even at the risk of my friend's wellbeing. My friend wants closure, rehabilitation and healing for everyone, justice and not revenge. Also, to make sure the person who did these things is kept away from children. If my friend should not stay silent, what can my friend do in an unbalanced system?
If being courageous was safe, we'd all be heroes. Absolutely your friend should speak out but they are correct in being scared. If this is in the US there are many options for self protection. Firearms in particular are a good start and any local range should offer safety courses too.
I wish I could offer more than just words on an internet forum, but that's all I got along with thoughts and prayers. There is no easy answer, except to consider the well being of other children. Is that not a noble sacrifice should something horrible happen to your friend?
Yes, my friend is in the process of getting legally armed and trained for the purpose of self-defense. My friend hopes to not need it, but is aware that there is a very real possibility that they might.
Thoughts and prayers are welcomed and appreciated. My friend has faith that if forcibly silenced, God will be there and know that my friend did what they could to help others. And my friend is appreciative of what you have had to say. Searching for answers on how to say something has been difficult and my friend doesn't expect any answers from anyone, only hopes for them. Whether or not my friend's potential sacrifice is noble is of no concern to my friend, only that my friend does what is possible to help protect the likely many children affected.
Thank you for helping me talk to my friend. It's very appreciated.
Edit: I've upvoted your comments in a show of appreciation for the quality of the content, however, it's not showing up. Probably too new or something, but I wanted to let you know incase it's not only on my end.
I appreciate the thought of fake internet points, however just do me one simple favor and pay it forward. Some internet rando or someone in your life may come along needing random advice and you might be the one to give what they need. If there is anything more I can do to help, feel free to reach out privately. Otherwise, I wish blessings and protection for both of you. It's a shit existence we live in, but I'm starting to realize that is because of the evil people in power. We are not naturally prone to cause harm and those that are will be dealt with soon. To reinforce this, it takes courage like the one your friend has to help bring the evil bastards down.
One last piece, consistency is going to be key. Make sure your friend knows they need their story to stand up to scrutiny. This may mean possibly being berated by the investigating authority. It's sometimes used as a tactic to verify authenticity. Make sure your friend knows not to take anything personally. Also I recommend going through the County Sheriff first and most importantly remember they are NOT your friend. They exist to enforce the law and nothing more. You are the emotional support structure for your friend, not them. Everything going forward with investigations should be seen as a business relationship between your friend and investigators.