This decision can have such long term ramifications. I don’t mean to sound harsh but this is going to affect me now and I am stunned she did this without even consulting me. She knows how strong I feel about this and we could have talked about this together.
I know why she got the vaccine and I know her hands were tied. She didn’t want to get it and I would have held her hand and went through all lawsuits possible to get justice.
I might not be able to have kids with her.
Not telling you is concerning, but do not sacrifice your whole relationship because of people’s comments. Talk to, try to rationally go through it. She may have felt more pressure to get it than you think.
Look we are a unique crowd here, and we can’t expect everyone, even loved ones to follow everything we tell them. I know we must sound crazy to them sometimes.
Don’t sacrifice your relationship because of online comments, talk to HER about it. Find out why she did.
My opinion of the vaccine is that it’s likely not harmful to most people, and this is all a slow play by the DS. They wanted to further divide us, identify the “others” like the Jews. They want us marked. I don’t think this vaccine is the kill shot.. it’s a setup for the future.
This is my personal opinion, and I wish you well. Communication is everything in successful marriages.
So in the future if there's something she feels "a lot of pressure" about, she should discuss that with others instead of her husband, eh?
Im here to say that a bunch of people leaping to conclusions when they know a fraction of the information could cause even more harm to him and to their relationship… have you ever considered what if he never did a good job explaining his viewpoint.. or there was some communication barrier we don’t know about that had influence.
Making a calculated decision requires all of the information… and the only one who has that is him. Don’t take life changing advice from people on the internet who don’t know your situation.
And yet, here you are, on the internet offering advice...not knowing any more than anyone else. May be time to heal thyself, physician.
That is what Sharker is saying. And once she consults with other people behind his back and she does something she knows he will hate, that it is his job to talk to her and understand why she betrays him. That is called "co-dependant".
Let me guess. You’re a woman. You make decisions based on feelings not cold hard facts. If this guy didn’t want advice he wouldn’t have asked and because said advice doesn’t match your emotional IQ he shouldn’t follow it. No one said this was easy but I say he is getting solid advice here. There is more to consider than if it will hurt to break the engagement, the time will come come that these questions will be faced by everyone. He is not being selfish or rash. He is already hurt. He has been betrayed!
You made a lot of assumptions that happen to be false about me. I’m likely a more calculating individual than you are working as an engineer. I’m not here to fight. Im here to say that a bunch of people leaping to conclusions when they know a fraction of the information could cause even more harm to him and to their relationship… have you ever consider what if he never did a good job explaining is viewpoint.. or there was some communication barrier we don’t know about that had influence.
Making a calculated decision requires all of the information… and the only one who has that is him. Don’t take life changing advice from people on the internet who don’t know your situation.
That's the problem. He doesn't have all the information. Only she does, and she won't tell him until she's done whatever she wants to do.
Some people can be married for life like that. Some get tired of the BS after 3, 5, 7, 15, or 20+ years.
I’m a systems engineer. So what. Are you really inferring because you are an engineer you aren’t led by your emotions? If your an engineer you aren’t a good one. A few points. In systems work you succeed when you’re collaborative. My son is an engineer in a company that produces nuclear medicine. My son is collaborative. In fact most careers require team work. Ever hear ‘no man is an island’?
The fact you jump and make so many assumptions about me or the people in this post proves my point enough. I sure hope you or your son do not assume so many unknown variables in your work like you do in conversation. Very cringe.
None of that matters.
I'm married and my wife decided to take the advice of her doctors even though I warned her not to.
We're already past the point of being able to have children, so fertility is a non-issue.
My wife discussed her decision with me. I expressed my concerns but told her the choice was ultimately hers to make.
I made a promise to my wife and to God when we got married and I intend to keep it.
With that being said, if I was single, I would not marry somebody who did something like this behind my back.