This decision can have such long term ramifications. I don’t mean to sound harsh but this is going to affect me now and I am stunned she did this without even consulting me. She knows how strong I feel about this and we could have talked about this together.
I know why she got the vaccine and I know her hands were tied. She didn’t want to get it and I would have held her hand and went through all lawsuits possible to get justice.
I might not be able to have kids with her.
Let me guess. You’re a woman. You make decisions based on feelings not cold hard facts. If this guy didn’t want advice he wouldn’t have asked and because said advice doesn’t match your emotional IQ he shouldn’t follow it. No one said this was easy but I say he is getting solid advice here. There is more to consider than if it will hurt to break the engagement, the time will come come that these questions will be faced by everyone. He is not being selfish or rash. He is already hurt. He has been betrayed!
You made a lot of assumptions that happen to be false about me. I’m likely a more calculating individual than you are working as an engineer. I’m not here to fight. Im here to say that a bunch of people leaping to conclusions when they know a fraction of the information could cause even more harm to him and to their relationship… have you ever consider what if he never did a good job explaining is viewpoint.. or there was some communication barrier we don’t know about that had influence.
Making a calculated decision requires all of the information… and the only one who has that is him. Don’t take life changing advice from people on the internet who don’t know your situation.
That's the problem. He doesn't have all the information. Only she does, and she won't tell him until she's done whatever she wants to do.
Some people can be married for life like that. Some get tired of the BS after 3, 5, 7, 15, or 20+ years.
I’m a systems engineer. So what. Are you really inferring because you are an engineer you aren’t led by your emotions? If your an engineer you aren’t a good one. A few points. In systems work you succeed when you’re collaborative. My son is an engineer in a company that produces nuclear medicine. My son is collaborative. In fact most careers require team work. Ever hear ‘no man is an island’?
The fact you jump and make so many assumptions about me or the people in this post proves my point enough. I sure hope you or your son do not assume so many unknown variables in your work like you do in conversation. Very cringe.
Oh. No! “Very cringe”! Just because I say it doesn’t make others not think it.