Hey friends,
I've read many posts here on this topic, so looking to this community for advice. I think many of our familial, friend, and romantic relationships are being tested currently, and I'm looking for help on how to navigate my own.
My girlfriend (who I've seen as a future wife) and I have been together a while and are generally on the same page with all this chaos, she is totally against what is going on. However, recently both our jobs became a bit stricter in regards to their vaccine protocol. She told me today if her work ends up mandating it she will cave and get it even though she doesn't want to. I've told her she has free choice and while I disagree I would never tell her she can't do it.
With that said, I see this as a pretty giant red flag for anyone carrying this mindset. Me personally, if I don't want something in my body it is not going in under any circumstances regardless of who's asking (family, employer, etc.). If someone is willing to cave to their employer with this kind of pressure, what else will they cave to in life? How many other external influences will dictate their decisions?
She's a great girl and I love her dearly, but this whole situation has me questioning and reevaluating everything, including those I'm considering spending my life with. As much as I "trust the plan", things may not get better anytime soon and I want people by my side with backbones of steel.
Any advice from the community on this? Anyone else going through something similar? Looking to keep this as an open discussion, all feedback is appreciated.
Well, I brought it up and it caused a disagreement.
She said I was being slightly unreasonable and that we need to support each other through this stuff. I then flipped it and asked what if something were being forced on her kid, would she be saying the same?
I think I got my answer, and it’s unfortunately not the one I was hoping for. Going to continue the discussion but this is quite painful.
Oh man, I'm so sorry to hear that ☹️
It is better find these things out now, rather than after you're married and have a child or two. I hope you can discuss it and reach a happy middle ground, but otherwise, you should probably move on for both your sakes.