I hear you. My youngest is 20 and still at home. He'll graduate from community college in Dec and needs to finish up at a 4-yr school, but I'm having a hard time encouraging him to get on it. Put aside that all the local schools here require the shot, it's more about the extended years of liberal brainwashing and the unknown of the state of the world when he's done. I'm thinking more about a trade school for him now just to try and rattle those weakened skills you're describing and bring them back to the surface. Plus, he could work for himself then.
Yesterday, my husband was deeply depressed and angry, so he spent the entire day in the bed. And you could cut the tension in the house with a knife. (This is a usual thing now about every 6 weeks or so.) I work from home and can't really engage when he gets like this. So in the afternoon, my son comes in and asks if he can cook us dinner because he knows it's one of "those" days. I said sure and would help him out. We spent an hour together making an amazing meal where he did all the heavy lifting as I gave instruction. Then we sat down and ate and talked together, which lead to cleaning up together, which landed us in the living room chatting for another hour. We had a blast, and he didn't grab his phone once. I think this is also part of the problem. Sleeping parents produce sleeping offspring. It takes effort, but I think some of this damage can be repaired at home. But it takes a red pill to know it's even happening. I'm sorry you have to experience this at such an exaggerated level. But God bless you for what you do. You're one of the ones who really cares or you wouldn't give a damn enough to notice. 😊 Thank you for seeing things as they are.
You know, I have my days too though I can't lay in bed all day and wouldn't want to anyway. It's a wonderful age, 20, when it's your kid. They're out of their teens and growing up. It starts to become more of a friendship than parent-child. Sounds like you had a blast, good for you and him. He sounds pretty sweet to help his Mom cook dinner.
Yup, he's the "golden" child. The youngest and the one with the biggest heart and kindest soul for sure. The other two are good people, don't get me wrong, but they don't have the level of empathy he has.
What do you do when you have those days? My husband is a disabled Vet and not working much. I feel like trying to keep him busy enough not to constantly read news online and throw himself into a negative place is almost my full time job right now.
I hear you. My youngest is 20 and still at home. He'll graduate from community college in Dec and needs to finish up at a 4-yr school, but I'm having a hard time encouraging him to get on it. Put aside that all the local schools here require the shot, it's more about the extended years of liberal brainwashing and the unknown of the state of the world when he's done. I'm thinking more about a trade school for him now just to try and rattle those weakened skills you're describing and bring them back to the surface. Plus, he could work for himself then.
Yesterday, my husband was deeply depressed and angry, so he spent the entire day in the bed. And you could cut the tension in the house with a knife. (This is a usual thing now about every 6 weeks or so.) I work from home and can't really engage when he gets like this. So in the afternoon, my son comes in and asks if he can cook us dinner because he knows it's one of "those" days. I said sure and would help him out. We spent an hour together making an amazing meal where he did all the heavy lifting as I gave instruction. Then we sat down and ate and talked together, which lead to cleaning up together, which landed us in the living room chatting for another hour. We had a blast, and he didn't grab his phone once. I think this is also part of the problem. Sleeping parents produce sleeping offspring. It takes effort, but I think some of this damage can be repaired at home. But it takes a red pill to know it's even happening. I'm sorry you have to experience this at such an exaggerated level. But God bless you for what you do. You're one of the ones who really cares or you wouldn't give a damn enough to notice. 😊 Thank you for seeing things as they are.
Get him into a trade like welding. He'll thank you later! Best decision I ever made.
perhaps he is bipolar.
My husband? No...he's just awake.
You know, I have my days too though I can't lay in bed all day and wouldn't want to anyway. It's a wonderful age, 20, when it's your kid. They're out of their teens and growing up. It starts to become more of a friendship than parent-child. Sounds like you had a blast, good for you and him. He sounds pretty sweet to help his Mom cook dinner.
Yup, he's the "golden" child. The youngest and the one with the biggest heart and kindest soul for sure. The other two are good people, don't get me wrong, but they don't have the level of empathy he has.
What do you do when you have those days? My husband is a disabled Vet and not working much. I feel like trying to keep him busy enough not to constantly read news online and throw himself into a negative place is almost my full time job right now.