I’m sorry i don’t mean to meander about my personal problems here. I know it’s not the place for that. But i just don't know where else to turn. I found out my significant other has been cheating for two years. I threw him out and am leaving but i feel like i have Stockholm syndrome and feel like I’m the one ending it by leaving. He hasn’t expressed wanting to fix things, only says he isn’t sure what he wants and knows I won’t get over it and doesn't want to live miserable forever. He’s been verbally abusive and sometimes physically as well. Im just so lost and hurt. I feel like its somehow my fault, and even though I know I should leave am finding it difficult to let go. If you all can keep me in your prayers, that would mean the world to me. Thanks in advance, I cant see from the tears so I’ll just say wwg1wga.
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I was in the same situation as you, 6 years ago. I thought my life was over, my ex cheated, verbally and emotionally abusive towards me. I didn't understand, and couldn't see that I was married to a full blown narcissist. I remember our break up and divorce left me feeling like I had been hit by a train, it was the hardest time in my life. I lost half of everything. The home I worked so hard for, for my kids.. I cursed God for letting this happen, I was soo mad at him.. now I'm re married to the sweetest women I have ever met, even though I foolishly blamed God, he literally sent me an angel. I have the most respectful, loving relationship of anyone I know. Sometimes it's hard to see how something soo negative can become something greater than you could ever imagine, especially when you are stuck in the thick of it hurting tremendously. Forgiveness was something I never thought I could afford to my ex, but it sure comes easy every day I see the women who truly loves me as I am for who I am. Time was the only thing that brought me any comfort, and it was painful, hopeless, exhausting and sometimes debilitating. Hold on, some days will feel like a week, and some weeks will feel like a month. You will heal, though it will take time, and one day, out of nowhere when you least expect it, you will find that someone who will show what it really means to be loved.
What I couldn't see when I was in your shoes, was what God was about to send me, to drastically change my life for the better. Stay strong! your miracle will happen when you least expect it. Will pray for you sister.