I personally see nothing wrong with it. Crap happens. All humans are fallible. One day, one of you could fall into temptation and end up divorced as a result. There's nothing wrong with taking precautions to protect yourself in that case.
I'm probably gonna get crap for this, but all of these people talking about men getting screwed 80%+ of the time don't know what they're talking about. That DOES happen, but more often than not it has little to do with gender bias. Usually it's more to do with the prenup being written in a manner that makes it invalid, or unfair and therefore not enforceable.
The main reason that courts side with women in most cases, is because prenups are usually written up in a manner that would give them literally nothing in the case of a divorce. So in most cases, this would leave the woman, who either has a low paying job or no job at all in the context we're speaking of, homeless, penniless, etc. Basically destitute with no workable skills, assets, etc.
If you want to make sure the prenup holds up in court, you have to give your ex spouse SOME form of "aid" in the prenup. This is usually anything from temporary alimony for a set period of time (long enough for them to support themselves while they go back to college for example), or a set amount of cash/assets that they can then use to sustain themselves.
Since I've seen people use Trump's divorces as an example, I'll use them too. In his cases, he chose the latter. His ex-wives got a cash payment, I believe in the 10s of millions of dollars. This was considered fair, since it was more than enough for them to maintain a comparable lifestyle if used and invested properly. In this case, Trump's responsibility ended at the payment. If they blow all the money, it's on them. He was fair to them, and gave them a method to provide for themselves.
That's the key to everything. You have to be "fair". So when people go to some dollar store lawyer office and have a prenup written up where they try to screw their ex-spouse out of everything, it will never work. Which is what most people do. The other thing you have to do is make sure it's signed at least 6 months in advance of the marriage date and all of your assets and income are known to both parties and their independent lawyers (make sure your spouse has a different lawyer from a different firm of their choosing present during the signing).
The last thing is to make sure your partner can't claim coercion. I already mentioned signing the prenup months in advance, but you have to make sure there isn't anything else they can claim coercion on. For example, if they claim to be pregnant, you need to get the doctor to sign off on it as proof they're pregnant before you go through all of this, otherwise they can claim you took advantage of them during their pregnancy.
If you do all of this, there's very few courts that won't enforce it. I'm not saying your former spouse won't try to screw you out of more, but it'll make it MUCH harder for them to be successful in that regard.
Basically, the key to all of this, is to hire a good lawyer to write everything up and not cheap out, be fair in the divorce terms, and make sure there's no possible way for you spouse to claim they were coerced into it. It's really not that hard, you just have to no be a butthole during the process. Yeah, it'll suck having to make temporary alimony or a big cash payment, but all of your assets will protected and once you're done with them, you're done with them.
I personally see nothing wrong with it. Crap happens. All humans are fallible. One day, one of you could fall into temptation and end up divorced as a result. There's nothing wrong with taking precautions to protect yourself in that case.
I'm probably gonna get crap for this, but all of these people talking about men getting screwed 80%+ of the time don't know what they're talking about. That DOES happen, but more often than not it has little to do with gender bias. Usually it's more to do with the prenup being written in a manner that makes it invalid, or unfair and therefore not enforceable.
The main reason that courts side with women in most cases, is because prenups are usually written up in a manner that would give them literally nothing in the case of a divorce. So in most cases, this would leave the woman, who either has a low paying job or no job at all in the context we're speaking of, homeless, penniless, etc. Basically destitute with no workable skills, assets, etc.
If you want to make sure the prenup holds up in court, you have to give your ex spouse SOME form of "aid" in the prenup. This is usually anything from temporary alimony for a set period of time (long enough for them to support themselves while they go back to college for example), or a set amount of cash/assets that they can then use to sustain themselves.
Since I've seen people use Trump's divorces as an example, I'll use them too. In his cases, he chose the latter. His ex-wives got a cash payment, I believe in the 10s of millions of dollars. This was considered fair, since it was more than enough for them to maintain a comparable lifestyle if used and invested properly. In this case, Trump's responsibility ended at the payment. If they blow all the money, it's on them. He was fair to them, and gave them a method to provide for themselves.
That's the key to everything. You have to be "fair". So when people go to some dollar store lawyer office and have a prenup written up where they try to screw their ex-spouse out of everything, it will never work. Which is what most people do. The other thing you have to do is make sure it's signed at least 6 months in advance of the marriage date and all of your assets and income are known to both parties and their independent lawyers (make sure your spouse has a different lawyer from a different firm of their choosing present during the signing).
The last thing is to make sure your partner can't claim coercion. I already mentioned signing the prenup months in advance, but you have to make sure there isn't anything else they can claim coercion on. For example, if they claim to be pregnant, you need to get the doctor to sign off on it as proof they're pregnant before you go through all of this, otherwise they can claim you took advantage of them during their pregnancy.
If you do all of this, there's very few courts that won't enforce it. I'm not saying your former spouse won't try to screw you out of more, but it'll make it MUCH harder for them to be successful in that regard.
Basically, the key to all of this, is to hire a good lawyer to write everything up and not cheap out, be fair in the divorce terms, and make sure there's no possible way for you spouse to claim they were coerced into it. It's really not that hard, you just have to no be a butthole during the process. Yeah, it'll suck having to make temporary alimony or a big cash payment, but all of your assets will protected and once you're done with them, you're done with them.