Do they really just live with the betrayal? I’m asking in earnest because I truly don’t understand people who can do that.
I’ve always felt like I was an outsider. I don’t really fit in anywhere. Been a fringe dweller since I was a very small child. I tried to fit in several times when I was in junior high, high school and College, yet I always end up hating every aspect of it.
Don’t get me wrong, I do want to belong. We just moved to a new state and my neighbors are all triple boosted tv watching morons. I want to get along and feel close to those around me, but I simply cannot get past all the bullshit. As such my circle now consists of one out-of-state friend, my out-of-state-grown children and husband.
I could write on this topic forever. However, in the end we create our own reality in which we chose to live in. There is nothing wrong with it being few people or hundreds. Everyone has experienced belonging and not belonging among people. You might have a close-knit relationship with your family, where you feel you belong at every social gathering. Conversely, you may be the black sheep of your family, and feel you don’t belong at such gatherings.
You see people as your people, or not your people. Everyone is worthy and deserving of using your mindfulness to find and/or create the reality in which you desire to live. When all is said and done you matter, and you belong where you desire to belong.
I have this on my wall. "Mental toughness is many things and rather difficult to explain. Its qualities are sacrifice and self-denial. Also, most importantly, it is combined with a perfectly disciplined will that refuses to give in. It's a state of mind -- you could call it character in action." — Vince Lombardi
Self-discipline is freedom. We make ourselves free from laziness and lethargy, freedom from the expectations and demands of others, freedom from weakness and fear — and doubt.
There are sadly some people chose to live in a reality that is built on lies. It eats away at them and they hide it. So they join groups to validate themselves trying to hide from the truth of the reality they have built. They will fight tooth and nail to preserve that reality. They become enslaved to the lie. These people tend to be miserable and want you to be miserable as well.
They have chosen to ignore the anger and sadness that comes with a life built on lies. They certainly will not stick around with truth tellers and try to shut out the voices of truth in their head.
Thank you for your thoughtful response. I’ve been self-employed and worked alone for most of my life. Your Vince Lombardi quote is 100% spot on.
I go through phases or cycles where I pour myself into various creative projects both because I view them as worthy and because I feel absolutely compelled to bring my vision to fruition. Sometimes it’s difficult for me to switch gears after periods of intense concentration and that’s when I find myself feeling like the people around me are utterly clueless and superficial. My immediate family seems to be the only people I tolerate long term 😂 so far, they are my only people.
We do create our own reality, but lately I find I’m constantly forced to waste my time, energy and money pushing back on super dumb people making super dumb rules. It can be exhausting....or I’m just getting old. Perhaps that’s the source of my impatience?
Do they really just live with the betrayal? I’m asking in earnest because I truly don’t understand people who can do that.
I’ve always felt like I was an outsider. I don’t really fit in anywhere. Been a fringe dweller since I was a very small child. I tried to fit in several times when I was in junior high, high school and College, yet I always end up hating every aspect of it.
Don’t get me wrong, I do want to belong. We just moved to a new state and my neighbors are all triple boosted tv watching morons. I want to get along and feel close to those around me, but I simply cannot get past all the bullshit. As such my circle now consists of one out-of-state friend, my out-of-state-grown children and husband.
I could write on this topic forever. However, in the end we create our own reality in which we chose to live in. There is nothing wrong with it being few people or hundreds. Everyone has experienced belonging and not belonging among people. You might have a close-knit relationship with your family, where you feel you belong at every social gathering. Conversely, you may be the black sheep of your family, and feel you don’t belong at such gatherings.
You see people as your people, or not your people. Everyone is worthy and deserving of using your mindfulness to find and/or create the reality in which you desire to live. When all is said and done you matter, and you belong where you desire to belong.
I have this on my wall. "Mental toughness is many things and rather difficult to explain. Its qualities are sacrifice and self-denial. Also, most importantly, it is combined with a perfectly disciplined will that refuses to give in. It's a state of mind -- you could call it character in action." — Vince Lombardi
Self-discipline is freedom. We make ourselves free from laziness and lethargy, freedom from the expectations and demands of others, freedom from weakness and fear — and doubt.
There are sadly some people chose to live in a reality that is built on lies. It eats away at them and they hide it. So they join groups to validate themselves trying to hide from the truth of the reality they have built. They will fight tooth and nail to preserve that reality. They become enslaved to the lie. These people tend to be miserable and want you to be miserable as well.
They have chosen to ignore the anger and sadness that comes with a life built on lies. They certainly will not stick around with truth tellers and try to shut out the voices of truth in their head.
Thank you for your thoughtful response. I’ve been self-employed and worked alone for most of my life. Your Vince Lombardi quote is 100% spot on.
I go through phases or cycles where I pour myself into various creative projects both because I view them as worthy and because I feel absolutely compelled to bring my vision to fruition. Sometimes it’s difficult for me to switch gears after periods of intense concentration and that’s when I find myself feeling like the people around me are utterly clueless and superficial. My immediate family seems to be the only people I tolerate long term 😂 so far, they are my only people.
We do create our own reality, but lately I find I’m constantly forced to waste my time, energy and money pushing back on super dumb people making super dumb rules. It can be exhausting....or I’m just getting old. Perhaps that’s the source of my impatience?