God understands your pain. He has been there. He gave His own Son as a sacrifice so He could have a relationship with us - we who chose to rebel against Him - and the world nearly stopped because of His grief. God didn’t take your son away, He brought him to Himself where He can protect him and keep him safe - free from the suffering of this world. We can’t see the things of Heaven from here, but this life is temporal and the next life is eternal. Your son is not gone - in what will seem to be the blink of an eye in Eternity, we will all be reunited. Your son fulfilled his mission and he’s gone on to his reward; we all will one day. The separation is SO painful, but God wants to give you peace. Be honest with Him - pour out your sorrow, but don’t block His path to minister to you with blame. He sees so much more than we can see. Trust is hard, but love NEVER dies. I pray a supernatural comfort for both you and your wife, and I pray God will reveal Himself to you both in a way that gives you peace that passes all understanding.