SIL is being forced to get vaccine for army reserve. He has been fighting this for a long time but is finally going to submit. :( What have I read here on suggestions of what to take afterwards to hopefully mitigate the side effects? Please no shaming. I'm trying not to worry.
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No shaming here. Just the facts. Do not submit. She is at a psychological stage of duress in which her decision making has become irrational.
What your SIL may be doing may sound baffling to others, but is a form of duress and panic. It is something that's difficult to pinpoint and explain. To provide an example of this duress and the resultant panic is one that has haunted me to this day. I recall a story of an American model by the name of Ginger Faye Meadows who was taken by a large saltwater crocodile on March 29, 1987 in northern Australia.
The story behind Ginger Meadows is equally as bizarre as what your friend did. I'll provide this link to an article written in 2017. I remember reading about this tragedy shortly after it occurred. The skipper's story has changed since the interview that occurred some 34 years ago. Now, he is saying he 'warned' Ginger Meadows not to "so much as dangle a foot in the water" because of the crocodile danger.
Cascade Falls south of Darwin is a beautiful scenic area with its cascading stream descending into a large pool of water. It looks like a great swimming area. It was originally reported that crocodiles were not in this area and was a concern. This was the reason why Ginger Meadows and her friend along with other members of the crew went swimming. At the time, it was purported the crocodile population had already been greatly reduced as a result of decades of over hunting. The Australian government even imposed a protected species protection on crocodiles.
I'll get to the point of this story and it goes like this. Ginger Meadows and her friend Jane Burchett swam to the falls and were positioned on a waist deep shelf under the falls. One of the crew members had already made the swim and scaled the staircase wall to the top of the falls. It was he who first saw the 3-meter crocodile approach and called out --"crocodile!". The women standing on the shelf saw it too. And it was rapidly approaching them. They were panicking and couldn't climb out up the wall. Burchett even took her shoe off and threw it at the croc. It didn't help. On the boat, a crew member saw the croc too. He frantically started the yacht's motor, but didn't have time to maneuver the boat, so he revved the motor hoping to scare the croc away. The croc continued moving straight at the girls.
Jane Burchett then tells this incredible puzzling piece of information. She said--
For better than 30 years I have been horrified by this story and I keep asking myself -- "Why would she jump off the shelf to swim from a croc? Her chances would have been better if she only would have remained where she was.
The young woman's body was recovered the next day – which would have been her 25th birthday.
Was it irrational behavior due to panic and stress? Why do people do act irrationally under duress?
Your SIL is in suffering from duress. She is not making a rational decision and should seek medical help.
David Hackworth said something along the lines of, everybody's sanity is like a bottle rocket, you never know when or how much until it goes off. Even the calmest soldier, you can never tell.
Anyways, my advice is: wait and see if he gets messed up by the injection. Don't marry him if he does. Cruel but practical. You told him your thoughts, his choices he pays, you don't pay.
I agree with the David Hackworth bit you wrote. When I was was in the military I saw the same thing with individuals. Having to spend 6-months temporary duty assigned to work under the NIS, I saw a lot of individuals get busted for drugs, some of which 'looked' like they'd never 'rat' out their connections, but did unexpectedly. It's amazing what duress does to people.