She doesn't want to be a mom so take her at her word. It is not good for your child to continue with the current situation if that is how she feels. Best to take this bull by the horns and run with it. Just make sure you legally protect yourself so she cannot waltz in years from now and turn the lives of you and your child upside down. If you can get her to sign over not only custody, but her rights as well, so much the better. It would save a lot of ugliness in the future and allow you to move on without being attached at the hip to an ex. By making her sign over her rights there would be no financial encumbrance for her going forward. Perhaps the thought of not being financially responsible in the way of child support and insurance fits into her plans. It would be a way to find out if she views this as a temporary situation or whether she really wants out. Once you can get her answer to this you will be better able to plan. Good luck fren.