Personally in my opinion if a person’s parents didn’t treat them right I don’t understand why society expects the child to care for the parents. It’s an unending cycle of mental abuse of guilt that then causes other types of pain for future generations.
Please see my story. You aren’t obligated to feel anything to your parents. If you desire to have a relationship that’s ok. I encourage you to forgive, not for her, but for you! Forgiveness will help you heal. You don’t have to forget!!! Honestly I don’t we should ever forget what people do to us. We should keep our guard up. People that have been through life’s 💩 get a thick skin & it helps be tough. It can also make us vulnerable. It’s very hard to trust.
I’m so proud of you. You have a risen above what she tried to do to you. You already know who you are. In fact you probably knew way back then when you were young what she was doing was wrong. Sometimes we are blessed with earthly angels that we aren’t even aware of. I’m not trying to get religious. I know my grandparents were looking after me. You might have had people looking after you.
If you feel like it write down your feelings in a journal. If you need to burn it afterwards for your security do it.
Blessings to you & take care.
I’m speaking from experience. My brother was my moms favorite & I always felt like something was off between me & my mom. We never got along. When I was a teenager she accused me of pushing me away. My dad drank bad, but always worked, that didn’t help matters.
When I was an adult looking at pics & remembering little things. I was my dad’s favorite & my brother was her favorite. I don’t know why. I know he was possessive from what my grandparents told me. A couple years before my grandma died she said my mom never wanted to have anything to do with me. 💡 I said thanks for confirming!
Then things were happening with my grandma, mama & uncle. 💡 I realized the same things happened with them. My grandparents had favorites also. Thankfully when I had a child I told my husband we would do everything the opposite with her. My husband was raised in such a normal family it’s scary. Bless his heart didn’t know what a dysfunctional was family until he married me.
Personally in my opinion if a person’s parents didn’t treat them right I don’t understand why society expects the child to care for the parents. It’s an unending cycle of mental abuse of guilt that then causes other types of pain for future generations.
Please see my story. You aren’t obligated to feel anything to your parents. If you desire to have a relationship that’s ok. I encourage you to forgive, not for her, but for you! Forgiveness will help you heal. You don’t have to forget!!! Honestly I don’t we should ever forget what people do to us. We should keep our guard up. People that have been through life’s 💩 get a thick skin & it helps be tough. It can also make us vulnerable. It’s very hard to trust. I’m so proud of you. You have a risen above what she tried to do to you. You already know who you are. In fact you probably knew way back then when you were young what she was doing was wrong. Sometimes we are blessed with earthly angels that we aren’t even aware of. I’m not trying to get religious. I know my grandparents were looking after me. You might have had people looking after you. If you feel like it write down your feelings in a journal. If you need to burn it afterwards for your security do it.
Blessings to you & take care.
I’m speaking from experience. My brother was my moms favorite & I always felt like something was off between me & my mom. We never got along. When I was a teenager she accused me of pushing me away. My dad drank bad, but always worked, that didn’t help matters. When I was an adult looking at pics & remembering little things. I was my dad’s favorite & my brother was her favorite. I don’t know why. I know he was possessive from what my grandparents told me. A couple years before my grandma died she said my mom never wanted to have anything to do with me. 💡 I said thanks for confirming! Then things were happening with my grandma, mama & uncle. 💡 I realized the same things happened with them. My grandparents had favorites also. Thankfully when I had a child I told my husband we would do everything the opposite with her. My husband was raised in such a normal family it’s scary. Bless his heart didn’t know what a dysfunctional was family until he married me.