What you say is accurate, about how some parents try to define us in ways that go against our true nature. I've been trying to break away from all that crappy childhood programming over the past couple years.
Sometimes it sort of feels like playing whack-a-mole. You think you've found and addressed all the ways those things affected you and then, lo and behold, another one rears its ugly head. Keep at it and eventually you'll find and rid yourself of all of them.
This may help you: I figured out that the ways my parents mislabeled me was all based on how my actions caused them to feel. I tended to blurt out truths they didn't want to hear/see, which isn't a bad thing, but it made them uncomfortable, so they labeled me in terms of the discomfort they felt. Realizing that helped me to understand all the mislabels, to recognize how they affected me, and to find ways out of that mess. Understanding how pathetic their behavior was helped me to let go of any angst toward them.
What you say is accurate, about how some parents try to define us in ways that go against our true nature. I've been trying to break away from all that crappy childhood programming over the past couple years.
Sometimes it sort of feels like playing whack-a-mole. You think you've found and addressed all the ways those things affected you and then, lo and behold, another one rears its ugly head. Keep at it and eventually you'll find and rid yourself of all of them.
This may help you: I figured out that the ways my parents mislabeled me was all based on how my actions caused them to feel. I tended to blurt out truths they didn't want to hear/see, which isn't a bad thing, but it made them uncomfortable, so they labeled me in terms of the discomfort they felt. Realizing that helped me to understand all the mislabels, to recognize how they affected me, and to find ways out of that mess. Understanding how pathetic their behavior was helped me to let go of any angst toward them.