Wife of a recovered addict-- these words written by NobodyLikesSplatter are solid truths. An addict WILL NOT get better until THEY WANT TO. There is no amount of love and encouragement that will make them change. The only change you will see is losing yourself in another's disease-you will lose your confidence, your convictions and your own sense of self. I cannot agree more with the recommendations to seek out narc-anon and/or al-anon meetings-some can be done online. These meetings/people help you keep your sense of self and remind you IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT! Shockingly, when I started removing myself from husband's addiction cycles, and refusing to be part of it--he woke up (3 yrs later). Hubs had his rock bottom-but he's back. He's 3+ yrs sober and re-learning how to be himself again. Love = being there, while keeping yourself healthy with healthy boundaries. I have lost too many other friends to overdose- 2 within the past year. Recovery is a lifelong process.. It is so beautiful on the other side...