I see a lot of post here about broken friendships and family relationships.
I have a good system I'd like to share.
I have a handful of very close friends and family that are diverse and I've managed to maintain those relationships flawlessly. Here is how.
For starters: If debate you must, then debate from a center point. You don't have to be disingenuous, but you can tone down your beliefs, or you can at least pivot from a neutral aspect.
My family knows how I really feel, yet I am able to still debate them respectfully from the center. If we can move their views from MSM to neutral, thats a big step.
Example;
Them: "What do you think about war in Ukraine?"
Me: "Both sides are garbage."
Them: "Fair point."
Vs.
Me: "Putin is saving the world and satanist are trafficking children in Ukraine in secret underground tunnels!"
A bit dramatic, but thats 100% how it sounds to normies. Thats stressful. Thats too much.
(Funny note: Remember season 2 of stranger things how they had to break the srory of Barb to the public? That is exactly how we must approach this.)
Next step: Stop. Spamming. Your. Loved ones!
Stop sending them walls of text about how the vaccine will kill them. Stop going off about adrenachrom.
That is toxic behavior. Even if you are right. Tho, we can never be certain, we should always remember there is a possibility we are wrong. Humble yourself.
It is not your job to save them. They are adults, respect them and treat them as such.
Warn them once or twice is fine, but going beyond that is abusive.
Just like a pro vaxxer trying to force you to take the vax. Because they are scared for you. Just as scared as you are scared for them.
Realize both sides are coming from a place of love. But its not healthy love. You can't force viewpoints onto people. You can't shelter them from the real world. Stop trying to parent your peers!
At the end of the day. We are all adults. We all make our own choices. We all live with consequences, none of us are perfect. Let them be free to falter.
Side point: Remember, the truth isn't for everyone. Its stressful. Your loved ones have their own lives, their own stresses and headaches. The last thing they need is an Alex Jones rant bombarding them when theyre just trying to live life as best they can.
God doesn't need you to save them. All he needs is for you to carry your own weight.
Which leaves me to my last advice: Be the example.
Come to terms with all of this. You need to stop living in fear. Find your peace, and live your life accordingly. If you can find peace and happiness in these times. If you can concor fear, if you can be the stable level headed one. Then guess what?
People will naturally follow you. You don't have to then turn around and cram every bit of info you have into their brains. No. Be neutral. Be there for what and when they need.
Not for when you need to vent your fears and frustrations onto people.
We aren't saviors. We are guidpost at best. Remember to love and respect even the normalest of normies. Treat them how you want to be treated. Be patient. Let go, stop trying to controll them. Work on yourselves, always work to be done in thay area for all of us. Thats the healthiest, kindest way we can help people. By working on ouselves so we can be stable and strong in the worst of times.
Closing:
You aren't bad for not constantly warning everyone. Stop carrying that burden around!
You didn't do this to the world, and its okay to let go!
Its okay to talk about superfical things with loved ones. Even do things like shop at stores you don't support (Occasionally)
Compromise.
Let yourself enjoy the time we do have together. You will realize how healing it is for both of you.
Talk about gardening, go fishing. (Hey, theyre skillsets anyway right?)
Enjoy life together outside of politics and world events. It is very possible. I promise. God bless and much love frens.
These rules are strictly for frens and family only.
Feel free to continue to scortch earth troll the normies online!
Deus vult!
I disagree with your post, part of it atleast. Full of contradictions. How am i supposed to redpill my family if i cant send walls of text with sources to support them? Slow walking it does not work. Precision strikes with force NOT a slow war of attrition. And with family you can afford to be more forceful. Go too far with a friend and they can cut you out of their life no problem, family youre stuck with. You say dont parent the parents but the slowwalking beating around the emotional bush is treating them like a child. My parents are not children, if theyre made uncomfortable by and ignore my messages then they are wilfully ignorant and acting like children. Correctly being told by your child that youre acting like children is a heavy hit to their psyche. The reason people are not successful being forceful is because theyre forceful with no followup. Be relentless with the truth, Dont dish out a redpill then take a break for a week because that makes the person think its not really that important.
The thought process of "That is toxic behavior. Even if you are right. Tho, we can never be certain, we should always remember there is a possibility we are wrong. Humble yourself." Is what got us in this situation in the first place we ARE right. Singing the truth loud and clear and constant is NOT toxic behavior, its the behavior that will get us out of this mess.
You do it tactfully! People will listen more when it’s subtle or they become curious. My grandmother used to tell me to plant seeds, they will grow at their own pace and many times think it was their idea or their thoughts. You’d be surprised
A seed does not have to be small. A coconut is a seed.
A seed has to be watered and given light. You cant just put a seed in a box and leave it alone. Consistency is more important than subtleness. Not every case is the same obviously but were dealing with constant ongoing brainwashing here we need to match that intensity to break it.